Words of Encouragement

Heart Balloons

2012-02-13T18:13:00.001-08:00

Happy Early Valentines Day!

Read a really good blog post by Chris Fabry tonight. Here's the link and I highly recommend it...

http://chrisfabry.blogspot.com/2012/02/hearts-wrapped-around-pole.html

True Love Really Waits

2012-02-12T09:04:00.000-08:00

When I was nine years old, I heard about the "True Love Waits" pledge. Right then and there, I made the vow to remain pure in all ways including saving myself for my future husband (not have sex until marriage).

The commitment card reads: "Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, my future mate, my future children, myself, my family and my friends to a lifetime of purity including sexual abstinence from this day until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship."

Yes, I also signed the commitment card that we get to keep as a reminder, but the true commitment was made in my heart all those years ago.

I am now 27 years old (single) and have stayed true to that vow...never been kissed and never had sex, etc. I'll admit that sticking to it hasn't been easy. I've had lots of temptations along the way.

And, it isn't completely within myself to fight such temptations and win. I'm human! I have needed God's help to be successful. "The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak" (Matthew 26:41 NIV).

Your probably wondering why I made such a decision and have stuck with it all these years...
The New Car!

When you purchased a new car, do you remember how excited you were? How happy and proud you were of that new car with all it's bells and whistles! How you couldn't wait to show it off to your friends and family. To be the first one to get in it and drive it. To breath in that new car smell....awe! :-)

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This example can be likened to having sex for the first time when married. There's excitement, happiness and joy. The giving of your body to your spouse as a wedding gift is priceless. Your spouse won't wonder if your comparing how the sex is with a previous experience; because, you won't have had a previous experience!

The Christmas Present...

What about how happy you were as a kid during Christmas time? Seeing all those colorfully wrapped packages under the tree, just taunting you to go ahead and open them before Christmas morning.

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And what if you were like some kids who snuck and opened a present or two during the night... You know how your parents knew you had done so? You gave yourself away with your facial expression and body language after having to open it for a second time.

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No joy or eagerness! What happened to all the excitement?

This illustration shows how having sex outside of marriage causes the wedding night to not be as special as it was meant to be. The mystery, joy, excitement and happiness is gone. And, you may not have meant to, but at some point you most likely started comparing your spouse physically and sexually with the person you were previously with. That hurts your relationship especially if your spouse turns out not to be 'as good' as the other person. You've been tainted, which is not how God intended marriage to be.

Joshua Harris mentions in his book "I kissed Dating Goodbye," about a dream that a female friend of his had. She dreamt it was her wedding day. She and the groom stood at the alter and were about to say their vows... When one-by-one some females stood up from their pews, walked down the aisle and took the groom by the hand creating a chain on the other side of him opposite to her.

When she asked him what was going on, he replied "I'm sorry, but at different points in my life I gave each one of them a part of my heart."

When you have sex, you not only give a part of your body away - you also give a part of your heart.

I want to be able to give my husband all of me: heart, mind (thoughts of him and no one else) and body.

What about you?

2nd Rate Sex

2012-02-12T08:00:00.000-08:00

That's right. You read the title correctly.

If you are having sex outside of marriage then according to Chip Ingram - you are getting 2ND rate sex. Don't believe me? Then answer the following questions:

Do you feel ashamed or guilty after having sex?
Do you think that giving into sex is the only way to keep your relationship?
Do you feel like you can truly be yourself in the relationship and the other person love you unconditionally - no matter what you do wrong?
Does giving into sex actually help you keep the relationship, or does it eventually end leaving you with yet another broken heart.

If you answered "Yes" to any of the first two questions, "No" to the fourth question, and/or a "No/Yes" to the last question then you are having 2ND rate sex.

According to Chip Ingram, "The heart of human sexuality is intimacy. Feeble, grossly, misinterpreted, the culture means to try to get intimate and loved. Let's just be candid about it. The next best thing to genuine intimacy is a soto artificial love making experience where for a few moments you feel loved and smothered and your loneliness goes away and God created your bodies to have an incredible sensation in varying levels and degrees...and it covers it up for awhile.

But that momentary sensation if it's not a product or fruit of the relationship...if it is an attempted band aid to create it...and it always falls flat. Sexual purity is all about getting God's best."

Chip used another great example, which was FIRE.

Fire is a beautiful and romantic thing if properly contained. Sex is the same - it too is a wonderful thing when two people are married.

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When you add sex (or the "crossing of sexual boundaries") into a relationship out side of marriage, it is the same as starting a fire in an unprotected area. People are going to get hurt. Havoc will break loose.

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So, are you following God's plan for sex?

If you are married and think you are having 2nd rate sex then check out Chip Ingram's series for couples by going to his web site at http://www.lote.org/

Are you a "Fruitcake or Flesh cake Christian?"

2012-02-11T08:00:00.000-08:00

My pastor gave two analogies to go along with his sermon "following the spirit": fruitcake and flesh cake. Which one are you?

He mentioned that either we as Christians are a fruitcake (meaning daily led by the Spirit..."the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith" - Gal. 5:22), or we are a flesh cake (meaning daily led around by our own flesh).

Here are a few points to help us understand how to follow the spirit (have a Spirit led life) rather than following our flesh, which only leads to trouble and heartache.

Recognize that your flesh is your enemy not your friend.
- If you do what feels good to the flesh you will live a flesh filled life. We are an excuse driven society - never taking responsibility for our own actions. (lying, gossiping, stealing, vindictiveness, and the list goes on...)
Romans 8:1, "There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit."

Galatians 5:17, "For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would."
Remember your flesh craves evil and pulls you in that direction

Your flesh is an active enemy not a dormant one. Our natural inclinations always pull us down.

Take for example rain. When it rains you get wet, which is natural. However, it is unnatural to dawn on a rain jacket, umbrella, or rain boots. The same is true with your flesh...your flesh by nature rains sins on your life. However, it is unnatural to act upon each sin your flesh craves to do.

Your flesh is naturally a liar. So of course you are going to have thoughts of: it will be okay this one time, what can it hurt, if nobody knows it will be fine, I can do it and not get caught, etc.

Realize that you must live by walking in the Spirit

Day by day walk in the spirit (See the video @ the bottom)
Possession of the spirit (have to have the spirit residing inside you. Otherwise God cannot lead your life. Therefore, you must be saved first).
Procession with the spirit = walking with the spirit (Guided by the spirit, led by the spirit, and directed by the spirit).

Get in the Word of God to find out where the spirit is going. The spirit never moves contrary to the Word of God. For example, if someone says "I have prayed about ____ and I know what God's word says about it, but I feel like the spirit is telling me that everything will be fine and to go ahead." Then they are lying so that they can give in to what their flesh wants. Remember what was just mentioned above: The spirit NEVER moves CONTRARY to the Word of God. In other words, God would never contradict Himself.

Just because you are a Christian doesn't mean you are a victorious Christian. It is a day by day journey with God and it isn't always easy.

Have you ever heard the song "Day by Day" by DcTalk? If not, you should. It goes along with this post and how Christians try to walk with God "day by day". Hope you enjoy!

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Feeling Weak?

2012-02-02T04:37:00.000-08:00

I love this song by Matthew West called Strong Enough. If your going through a rough time right now - then you can relate to his song. The great thing for those in Christ is that we can cast all our burden's at the Lord's feet. As Corrie Ten Boom said, "Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but it empties today of its strength."

Enjoy and be encouraged!

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Broken Heart

2012-01-29T07:28:00.000-08:00

Lord,
Please break my heart, so that it aches for those who do not know you as Savior, Father, Friend. May I be reminded to pray for them daily and throughout the day. Only you know their heart and needs - please meet them in the place they are now like only you can. Shower them with your mercy and grace. Open their eyes to see you, their ears to hear you, their mind to understand and their hearts to respond to you. Please "peradventure to grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will" (2 Timothy 2:25-26).

Love Letters!

2012-01-27T08:38:00.000-08:00

Love Letters To Your Future Spouse Before You Meet?

Yep, you read that title correctly. While this particular post is directed to single women and men...those of you who are dating, courting, engaged and even married can adopted this into your life as well.

I once read about 'writing love letters to your future spouse before you've even met' - in a book for singles. It peaked my interest. The suggestion was made to help singles deal with their singleness (especially during holidays such as Valentine's Day) by helping them not focus on their singleness. Instead, they would be preparing for a future relationship. You'll also have a special gift (thoughts from your heart) to offer that special someone when the time comes.

Guess What? You'll never believe this, but I have located a journal that while designed for married couples to do just that (write love letters to each other, etc.) - us singles can use it for our love letters to our future spouse! Take a look at the pictures below:

This is actually one journal with Mr. on one side and Mrs. on the other. I wish they had been 2 separate books, but it works non the less.
Why do it? Several reasons. What you write in the days, months or years leading up to you meeting the person you will marry, is something your spouse will treasure forever. It gives your spouse a glimpse into your life before you ever met and let's them know you were thinking about them way back then.

It's easy to write a love letter to someone you are in a relationship with. Someone whose appearance and voice you are familiar with. It is quite different when trying to write a love letter to someone you think you've never met, never heard them speak and do not even know their name!

What kind of love letters would you write?

Well, that's completely up to you! The book I read didn't give any details on what kinds of things to write, but I'll give you a small glimpse into some of the letters I am writing for my future husband - whoever he is...

Of course, love letters...won't go into details there. :-)
I ask questions. Things I will want to know the answer to that are very important to me. I also list my answers to the questions I am asking him, so that he will know where I stand on those matters.
I express my longing for us to be together. My curiosity about him...his looks, voice, character, etc.
I list my prayers for him...One in particular is the prayer that Ruth Bell Graham prayed for her future husband (before she met Billy Graham). You can find that prayer on the left side of my blog towards the bottom.
I list some of the couples in scripture and their characteristics that stand out to me, how they met, etc. For example, Jacob and Rachel. How Jacob worked 7 years just to be able to marry Rachel. "So Jacob served seven years for Rachel and they seemed to him but a few days because of his love for her." (Genesis 29:20). I asked my future husband if he is my Jacob? :-)
I can relate to the scripture verse above; because, the years I have spent waiting on my future husband will definitely feel like just days when we are engaged.

Below are additional pictures of the journal:

The first picture is showing what is at the beginning of each side of the journal. "For My Wife..." on the Mr. side and "For My Husband..." on the Mrs. side.

I've edited mine to not have the word 'about', but instead the word 'before' as I'm not married yet.

The second picture shows the inside of the journal and how each page is lined with a quote. The one pictured above happens to be "Only God knows how deep is my love and longing for you" Philippians 1:8.

Prayer Journal

2012-01-26T16:32:00.000-08:00

Do you keep a prayer journal?

My mother used to encourage me to keep a prayer journal. As a teenager, I did start one, but ended up not staying with it. Now, I regret that action as my memory isn't as good as it used to be and I wish I had something of such value to look back.

Then while listening to WMBW radio station (also known as Moody Radio), one of the programs that was on had someone talking about keeping a prayer journal.

He mentioned how keeping one can be very encouraging, help you grow spiritually, and assist you in your prayer time with God.

At first, I thought I would just write in a notebook (and there is nothing wrong with that at all), but my mom suggested we go to the nearest Christian bookstore & see what kind of journals they had. Sure enough - they had one called "Prayers & Answers Journal." I was in luck!

For those who might not know what a prayer journal is...it is very very similar to a regular journal that you jot your days events in. With a prayer journal, your concentration however is on prayers & the events that led up to you praying for loved ones, friends, yourself, people you meet for the first time (the lady running the grocery store register, the mechanic working on your car, etc.).

This is an awesome little journal and even if you can't find one exactly like it - I highly recommend adding the following things to your notebook as you keep track of your prayers. Mine is made by "DaySpring" & the ISBN-10 is: 1608176347 / the ISBN-13 is: 978-160817642.

1.) Start a section at the very beginning of the notebook (roughly 4 pages or more). On the first page create two columns: a prayer column and date column. Then on the 2nd page create two columns: an answer column and date column. *Do the same on the next 2 pages alternating.

What you are going to do is write down all your prayers as simple, or as detailed as you like and the date you prayed them on the 1st page.

Then whenever God answers your prayer - you will go back to the second page and write down which prayer God answered - how He answered it and the date He answered it on.

This will truly help encourage you when you are feeling down, wondering why God might be being silent in your life at the moment, etc. By looking back, you'll see all the times He answered your prayers to the affirmative and how quickly, or slowly they were answered.

Don't let the times He said no discourage you, but dive in and see why He said no. Perhaps, what you asked for was not in His will for you, or would have caused you pain and His 'no' was a way of preventing you from experiencing that pain, etc. He is our Heavenly Father (parent) after all.

"You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures" (James 4:3 New American Standard)

This will also help you see the different ways God works in peoples lives.

How not everyone goes through the same things just to get to the same results. It's exciting and a glimpse of Jesus like you've never experienced before.

I've found that it also helps me grow in how I pray....the words I use, etc.

2.) Make sure you write down the date (mm/dd/yyyy), day (i.e. Monday) and time each time you write in your prayer journal. Trust me - you will be glad you did later as you look back.

3.) Some people code their journals, so others won't know what is being said - as a way to keep things confidential/private. My previous pastor does this and I think it is a great idea; because, you never know what might happen to your journal. You wouldn't want just anyone knowing that Billy Bob has a drinking problem and Susie has a drink addiction, and Jack is addicted to porn, etc.

If you keep a prayer journal, I'd love to hear from you on how different or similar yours may be and how it has encouraged you, etc. Whatever you might want to share - please feel free to comment below.

Have a great day!

Still Hope?

2012-01-15T18:05:00.000-08:00

A friend currently lent me a book called, "Not Beyond Hope" by Bill Stafford III and I'm about half way through it as I stopped to write this post. I just started reading it roughly an hour ago, so you can see that it has my attention.

For those of you who do not recognize, or know the name...Bill Stafford III is one of Dr. Bill Stafford's sons. Dr. Stafford was featured in the hit movie "Fireproof" as the older neighbor next door.In real life he is a pastor and evangelist. He and his wife had five children and Bill was the second to their youngest child Steve.

This book was written by the son ,Bill, and is the story of his rebellious life filled with years of prodigal living (drugs, pornography, etc.) and then how he was saved by the grace and mercy of Jesus Christ.

"The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken" (pg. 30, Not Beyond Hope).

Two very good reasons why you should read this book:

1.) If you've been praying for a loved one (child, friend, spouse, acquaintance, etc.) who was either left the narrow path for a wider road, or never stepped foot on the narrow path....and have not seen any glimpse of hope that they will ever change their ways. Then you should read this book; because, it will encourage you when you feel like giving up and give you strength to continue on praying for that person(s) when you have no more strength left. One of God's ways in giving you hope.

2.) If you are as the term says the 'prodigal' in someones life and are looking for a way out - or are curious about the other side...then this book is for you. You will see that you are not alone in seeking to fill the void within, heal your wounds and cease the pain of a broken and destructive lifestyle. Let one man's experience of transformation from the road marked to hell help you make yours today. Be encouraged that there is a way out of such lifestyles and though the change is not easy - it can be done.

If Facebook Were Around When Jesus Was Born...

2012-01-01T15:30:00.000-08:00

I love this video and how it uses a current tool and way of communicating to better help people understand our history:
1.) The coming of our Lord Jesus through the virgin birth by Mary
2.) How the society looked at Joseph & Mary for her to be with child (by the Holy Spirit) before their marriage.
3.) Mary's relative Elizabeth and her husbands view on Mary's situation and then their own...
Get ready to relate, laugh and learn.... :-)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3ZF9N3piDQ&sns=fb

Can You Pray Without Words?

2011-09-23T09:14:00.000-07:00

Can you pray without words?

Have you ever fell to your knees to pray to God about something so important in your life at that moment and found yourself speechless? Dumbfounded?

Words just wouldn't come no matter how hard you tried to form them....but perhaps tears flowed?

I've been there too and so have many others - know you are not alone.

In fact, Hannah had the same problem in 1 Samuel Chapter 1: 10-17: (Hannah is in the church praying)
"In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the LORD, weeping bitterly. ¹¹ And she made a vow, saying, “LORD Almighty, if you will only look on your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the LORD for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head.” ¹² As she kept on praying to the LORD, Eli observed her mouth. ¹³ Hannah was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk ¹⁴ and said to her, “How long are you going to stay drunk? Put away your wine.”
¹⁵ “Not so, my lord,” Hannah replied, “I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the LORD. ¹⁶ Do not take your servant for a wicked woman; Ihave been praying here out of my great anguish and grief.”
¹⁷ Eli answered, “Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.”

Hannah so badly wanted a child, but God had closed her womb. Back then men could have more than 1 wife and so Hannah's husband - Elkanah - was also married to Peninnah. Now Peninnah had given birth to two sons. Peninnah was mean to Hannah by making fun of and ribbing Hannah for the fact that she had not had any children.

Yes, God did answer her prayer in his own time:
¹⁹"Early the next morning they arose and worshiped before the LORD and then went back to their home at Ramah. Elkanah made love to his wife Hannah, and the LORD remembered her. ²⁰ So in the course of time Hannah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Samuel,^[b] saying, “Because I asked the LORD for him.”
And, Yes Hannah also remembered & kept her promise to God that she had made in the prayer above.

For others, perhaps only one word is all that can be spoken during a prayer / cry for help to God - such as "please" or help". Tony Woodlief described his situation like this:

"In the midst of this life's wreckage, there have been many long dark knights when I scarcely had breath for prayer, let alone presence of mind to formulate the right words. Some nights I have lain across my bed, or on the floor, and I have wept, and hoped that tears suffice where words won't come. Once on the upper floor of a dingy hotel, when I was so burdened with despair that I could think of little other than hurling myself from the window, I found a prayer that has served me well since: 'Please. Please.'
God knows what we have done, and for what we plead. Most important, He knows what we truly need. If you could name only one word - a chalice into which you might pour all your heart's yearning - could you find one better than 'please'?" (In Touch Magazine, Oct. 2011- pg. 21).

So be encouraged that God knows your heart & what you want to say to Him even if you can't say the words.

Sex Before Marriage?

2011-09-10T13:49:00.000-07:00

Sex Before Marriage?

Have you ever tried out a buffet for free - before having to pay to eat?
How about taken a new car home right from the dealership to test drive for the night, a month, a year before having to purchase it? That's ridiculous you say - of course not!

So why is it that we expect and/or allow something more precious and valuable - our bodies - to be used before marriage???

Right now our society today is all about sex. The goal of relationships is to have sex - to find that person you can connect with sexually speaking. So, why would anyone want to save sex for marriage, right?
Well, here are some really good reasons why:

1.) "Those who abstain from sexual intercourse before marriage report the highest levels of sexual satisfaction in marriage."

2.) "Those who cohabitate (live together) before marriage have a 50% higher divorce rate than those who do not. Those who cohabitate are also more likely to commit adultery once married."

3.) "Those who abstain from sexual intercourse before marriage have the highest rates of fidelity in marriage."

4.) "The introduction of sex in a dating relationship almost always ushers in the 'break-up' of that relationship."

5.) "Sexually transmitted diseases (including AIDS) can remain dormant for up to a decade or more; but be passed on to others during that time."

Sobering isn't it? These facts were gathered from surveys with various Universities (UCLA, University of Washington, University of Oregon & University of South Carolina) within the United States by the Bethesda Firm and published in the Washington Post in 1994 under the title: "The Hottest Valentine: The startling secret of what makes you a high-voltage lover." I've gathered this information from Chip Ingram's: 'Sexual Purity in a Sex Saturated Society' broadcast (click link to hear) and his book "Love, Sex and Lasting Relationships".

So, as Chip Ingram with Living On The Edge puts it, "This is raw data - not from a religious background. Five facts that may motivate you to be sexually pure. To reserve sex for a one man, one woman relationship inside the confines of marriage."

"Sex is no test of love, for it is precisely the very thing one wants to test that is destroyed by the testing". - Walter Trobisch

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2011-08-21T16:59:00.001-07:00

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God's Many Names

2011-08-02T15:35:00.000-07:00

I love this video because it shows all the names of God and what they mean...I didn't realize just how many names He has.

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2011-08-02T15:26:00.001-07:00

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Our Sins

2011-07-08T05:26:00.000-07:00

"You may be sure that your sins will find you out" Numbers 32:23.

God's word is true and to the point. Our sins will find us out, so there is no need to try to hide....you can't.
Take me for example. A sin I committed years ago by not being a good steward with the finances God had given me - found me out while at work yesterday. I accept full responsibility for my actions - as I should. I also realize that God was still showing me mercy and grace in the midst of punishing me for my actions.

What a wonderful parent! The mercy and grace He showed me was by having everyone involved and those that were around when it took place - be so kind to me through it all and not appear to be judging me - and even encouraging me.

I have learned my lesson and am working on correcting my wrong doing. Thank you God for being the kind of Father that you are. That you do not let me get away with my sins, but help me to face them, learn from them and try not to commit them again.

Singleness - A Blessing or Curse?

2011-05-15T12:20:00.000-07:00

What is your age and how long have you been single? Do you view your singleness as a blessing, or a curse? Why?

Ask a single person whose never been married, but longs to be and his or her answer might be that singleness is a curse. However, ask someone who has loved and lost and the answer might be completely different. My mother has always told me, "It is better to have never loved - than to love someone and loose them."

In my late teens and early twenties, I struggled with being single. Back then, I saw it as a curse. Some friends and family tried to 'help me' in their own way, which only made matters worse for me. I wasn't into dating for the sake of dating. I never wanted to hurt anyone and I didn't want to get hurt. The saying: "the right person at the wrong time, is the wrong person" is very true (Joshua Harris).

As the years go by being single hasn't gotten any easier, but I no longer see it has a curse. Rather, there are still times when I feel it is my 'thorn in the flesh' that I must carry. I could never have made it this far without God helping me along the way. He has truly been my rock, best friend, father, confidant, encourager...you name it. He's been with me through thick and thin. I've lashed out: yelled at Him; blamed Him; questioned Him and yet He has remained ever faithful. Kindly helping me to grow more in understanding along the way.

The Apostle Paul talks about singleness and married life. The blessings and curses - if you will - of both. Paul had once been married. The scriptures do not go into detail to say if his wife passed away, or not. However, Paul used his life experience to say to the singles trying to live for Christ, that: "I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I" (1 Corinthians 7:8 kjv).

Meaning, it is good if they can remain single even as Paul was single. Thus allowing themselves to focuses whole heartedly on Christ and doing His will, which is what Paul was doing. "He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord. But he that is married careth for the things, that are of the world, how he may please his wife.

There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction" (1 Corinthians 7:32-35).

There are ways in which a single person could be better used by God in ministry than a married person and vice versa. For example, it is harder on a family to have a spouse go into the mission field, only seeing him or her once a month - if that. However, a single person could go into the mission field and not have the burden of missing their family, or placing a strain on them for being gone so long.

A married couple could be used by God better in ministring to another married couple verses a single individual. The married couple would know more about the life of being married more so than a single person.

I have chosen to try and use the time I have now (as a single person) doing as much as I can for Christ. For I know, just as Paul described above that: "she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Enjoy your singleness while you have it and make good use of the time.

You Reap What You Sow

2011-05-01T19:58:00.000-07:00

Are you interested in gardening? If so, what would you plant in your garden? How about peas, lettuce, squash, etc.?

Have you ever heard the saying..."you reap what you sow?"

That statement is so true in more ways than one. We know it is true in terms of gardening. If you plant lettuce seeds then when harvest time comes you will reap lettuce and so forth.

That phrase is also Biblical and comes from Galations 6: verse 7 "Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows." That chapter continues on to say in verse 8, "Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life."

So what are you planting in your life?

Check out the following poem that parallel's actual gardening with how a Christian should strive to live...

"New Garden:
Plant three rows of peas: peace of mind, peace of heart and peace of soul.
Now, plant four rows of squash: squash gossip, squash indifference, squash grumbling, squash selfishness.
Plant four rows of lettuce: lettuce be faithful, lettuce be kind, lettuce be happy, lettuce really love one another.
No garden should be without turnips: turnip for service when needed, turnip to help one another, turnip the music and dance.
Water freely with patience and cultivate with love!
There is much fruit in your garden; because, you reap what you sow.
To conclude our garden, we must have Thyme: thyme for fun and thyme for rest."
Author unknown.

Easter Is For You!

2011-04-24T10:35:00.000-07:00

If the punishment for any crime your commit was to be as follows:

First, your brutally beaten by several people to the point that you aren't even recognizable to your friends and family.

Second, followed by torture (whipped with a cat-of-nine tails along with other torture devices used on you till the skin on your back was all pulled off and your organs could be seen)

Third, though by now you would be so weak since you've just endured hours upon hours of this treatment and have lost a lot of blood - you would be made to carry the very device that would be used to kill you with, a roughly 300 pound (135+ kilograms) cross to the destination of your execution.
- Once you've reached the destination, you would be nailed to the very wooden cross you've just had to carry. Then the cross would be placed into a hole, so that it could be raised up. You would feel the weight and pressure of gravity on your body as you hung in the air. Your skin around the nails placed to hold you up would tear.
  - And as if that wasn't enough....you would be stabbed in the side as you were hanging making for a very slow and painful death.

Do you know of anyone...friend or family that would be willing to take this punishment and ultimate death for you? What about a total stranger?

Your parent(s) would be as close as it comes. However, Jesus Christ - a total stranger to you and I did just that...took our place and underwent all of the above punishment and in that order, so that you and I would have our sins (crimes) forgiven by God. That is how much God loves you and me - knowing we deserve the punishment for our sins, but He took our place willingly.

You see, all those years ago in order for your sins (crimes) to be forgiven - ever so often a pure/clean lamb had to be slaughtered and offered to God (the creator of Heaven, earth and all that is within) as a burnt offering for forgiveness. Then God sent His son Jesus Christ to die the death of the crucifixion as mentioned above, in order for your sins (crimes) and my sins (crimes) past, present and future to be forgiven. Jesus was the pure/clean lamb sent to take our punishment (death).

But it wasn't complete. Once Jesus died and was buried...after three days he arose from the grave! He conquered death, hell and the grave in order to give us life everlasting. Now, you have the ability to choose eternal life with Jesus Christ or eternal damnation in hell with satan. The choice is yours - Christ died and came back to life after three days so that you could have the ability to choose. That is how much He loves you. He isn't making you do something you don't want to do, nor is He making you have to pay the penalty for your actions (sins/crimes)- He did it for you!

So what are you waiting for...choose life everlasting....choose Christ!

"He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he did not open his mouth; he was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before its shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth." Isaiah 53:7 King James Version

"But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to our own way; and the LORD has laid on him the iniquity of us all." Isaiah 53:5-6 KJV

What Fruit Are You?

2011-04-10T05:19:00.000-07:00

No one except God knows the heart of every individual. He knows if you are truly saved or not. While men and women might try to trick each other into thinking they are saved when they aren't - we cannot fool Jesus.

However, God does give us the ability to discern if someone truly knows Jesus as their Savior or not. "By their fruit you will recognize them" (Matthew 7:16). Now, what did He mean by saying we would recognize them by their fruit?

You've no doubt heard of apple trees, peach trees and orange trees. But have you ever heard of an apple tree bringing forth oranges instead of apples? What about an orange tree bringing forth peaches? Me either! It just doesn't happen.

The same is true for those who are saved and not saved. A saved individual brings forth the fruit of their father - Jesus - "the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance" and so on (Galatians 5:22-23). While, an unsaved individual brings forth the fruit of their father - satan (whether they realize it or not he is their father if Christ is absent from their life. For example, the absence of light is darkness & Jesus is the "light of the world" while satan is the darkness) - "desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another, hatred, drunkenness, witchcraft, idolatry, adultery, strife, lasciviousness" (Galatians 5:19-21) and so on.

"Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit" (Matthew 7:17- 18).

There is no perfect Christian. Therefore, you will not find a Christian with all the characteristics of Jesus. It just won't happen. However, you will at least find some of Jesus' characteristics (things like: love, joy, kindness, peace, gentleness, faith, temperance, meekness, etc.) in that person. Also, you will see that individual making progress in exhibiting those characteristics as Jesus conforms them to His image by their willingness to obey His commands.

Again, God knows the heart. So even if someone works really hard at trying to exhibit fruit of the spirit yet they do not have a personal relationship with Christ, they will not get into heaven. "For by grace you are saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast" (Ephesians 2:8-9). You have to have a personal relationship with Christ - there is no other way!

Going back to the fruit analogy, if it looks like an orange on your fruit tree, but it's really another orange type of fruit you will know it when you bite into it. The same is true with wolves in sheep's clothing. Their conversation, behavior and actions will give away who their true father is.

Are you a fruit cake or flesh cake Christian?
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Bind My Heart To Thee

2011-04-04T16:41:00.000-07:00

"Jesus sought me when a stranger
Wondering from the fold of God
He, to rescue me from danger
Interposed His precious blood

O to grace how great a debtor
Daily I'm constrained to be!
Let they goodness like a fetter
Bind my wandering heart to Thee
Prone to wander Lord I feel it
Prone to leave the God I love
Here's my heart Lord, take and seal it
Seal it for Thy courts above"

This is just part of the song called "Come Thou Fount."

Day 10

2011-03-31T05:00:00.000-07:00

Psalm 103:2-5,

"Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits: Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases; Who redeemeth thy life from destruction; who crowneth thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies; Who satisfieth thy mouth with good things; so that thy youth is renewed like the eagle's."

A wonderful reminder!

Day 9

2011-03-30T18:04:00.000-07:00

Hebrews 10:23

"Let us hold fast the profession (confession) of our faith (hope) without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;)"

Day 8

2011-03-29T19:45:00.000-07:00

Well, I'm not off to a great start as I didn't get this posted till this evening, but I'm trying....

Jeremiah 29:11

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

How does this verse speak to you?

Day 7 of 30

2011-03-28T05:00:00.000-07:00

Good morning! Today is Day 7 and here is the scripture verse for today, which is from Isaiah 26:3: "Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed (sustained by) on thee: because he trusteth in thee."

What does this particular verse say to you?

To me, it says a lot of things.

It reminds me, that whenever I personally start feeling depressed about things in my life and I can no longer see hope in the situation....it is because, my mind has wondered away from Christ and the things of Christ. Meaning, I have strayed from keeping my eyes on Him. How does one do that? By not spending time with Him.

For example, whenever I spend my mornings with God in prayer, reading His word (growing spiritually) or worshiping Him in song..then there is a since of peace I have throughout the whole day. No matter what circumstance may come my way I can freely trust in Jesus. It is truly a wonderfully feeling.

However, if I choose to not focus my mind on Christ and instead allow my mind to focus on other things - then I am not allowing Him to sustain me with His peace through the temptations and trials that will come my way during the day. Which also means, I am more likely to become bogged down in whatever temptations and/or trials come my way - which is very stressful and depressing.

Another way, that verse speaks to me is about obedience. Whenever you obey whomever is in authority over you...be it your parent(s), the law, your boss, etc. then you are at peace; because they are at peace with you. However, whenever you think about disobeying them or actually do something you know you shouldn't - then you loose that since of peace. Why? Because you've stepped away from the very boundaries that gave you the peace you felt.

What some may call "rules" that God has laid forth for His children to follow, I see as boundaries and warnings to help protect us from the danger we cannot see. Just like at the beach, not only is a life guard present to keep watch over those swimming freely in the ocean, but markers have been placed in certain places to visually indicate to the swimmers that to go beyond that point is dangerous and would mean they are taking their own life into their hands.

For the most part, people usually stay within those boundaries set forth by the life guard and whenever a whistle is blown to indicate a possible shark - most listen. However, there are those few who venture beyond the line and/or ignore the whistle of warning - only to do so to their detriment.

We have all been that person and suffered the consequences for our actions. Hopefully, we have learned from those lessons and are wiser now. Less willing to venture outside the boundaries set forth for us out of love.

30 Days

2011-03-27T18:28:00.000-07:00

A good friend of mine, recently passed on to me a 30-day challenge: praying God's word back to Him for 30 days.

I started last week and it's been great. The hard part, is not letting things get in the way of remembering to pray the scripture that you read for that day - throughout the day.

I tend to get side tracked with lots of other things to do and before I know it - it's bed time. However, I am determined to complete this...and give it my all.

I've decided, that in order to help me do this I need to hold myself accountable. Therefore, I will be posting each days verse on the blog, which will also allow you to join me in this challenge if you so wish.

To catch up, here are the first six days:

Day 1:
Philippians 2:13
"For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure (according to His good pleasure)."

Day 2:
Philippians 2:14
"Do all things without murmurings (grumblings) and disputings."

Day 3:
Romans 8:28
"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose."

Day 4:
Philippians 4:13
"I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me."

Day 5:
Philippians 4:9
"Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you."

Day 6:
Philippians 4:6
"Be careful (anxious) for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication (to ask humbly) with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God."

Welcome To The Family!

2011-03-19T06:43:00.000-07:00

Children are a blessing from God! Do you have children of your own? If so, are they yours by birth or adoption?

"And God almighty bless thee, and make thee fruitful, and multiply thee, that thou mayest be a multitude of people"

(Genesis 28:3 KJV). God told Noah in Genesis 9:1 to be fruitful and multiply in order to replenish the earth. Being fruitful (baring children) is mentioned several time throughout scripture.

There are so many children in this world that need loving homes, so I wouldn't mind adopting for I've been adopted by my Heavenly Father.

Did you know, that If you have been saved then you have also been adopted by Jesus into His family! Isn't that just wonderful news! :-)

So whether you have biological parents and a family of your own or not - if you have been born again then know you've been adopted into God's family and have brothers and sisters in Christ!

One of my favorite music bands, Third Day, has a new song out called "Children of God."
It is about our adoption into God's family as well as earthly adoption.

Posted on Youtube by: thirddaychannel

Conviction vs. Condemnation

2011-02-26T07:36:00.000-08:00

Conviction = you are about to do something, or you've done something and not sought forgiveness for it or made restitution and you could. So you feel edgy about. Hesitant. Conviction is from God.

Condemnation = Is from the devil. And, it involves any past offense that you have asked God to forgive you for and attempted to make restitution to the other person, even if they wouldn't let you, and the devil is just tormenting you with your past. This is where the bible verse, "as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us" (psalm 103: 12) comes into play in helping you fight the enemy (satan) as he attacks your mind and thoughts about past failures.

Someone once told me, to learn from other people's mistakes rather than create my own. They went on to say: "this way, satan will have less to throw up in your face and try to bring you down with condemnation."

At the time, I was too young to completely understand what they were trying to convey and fully appreciate their words of wisdom. But it didn't take long before I got the message. I had to make some mistakes before it all became very clear to me.

You can't hide, or run from the mistakes you make. God tries to protect us by telling us what to stay away from, etc. But the ultimate decision of whether to sin or not - He leaves up to us. And, He also informs us that no sin we commit is ever done in secret: "you may be sure your sins will find you out" (Numbers 32:23 NIV). Not only does He know every thought or action we have or make, but when we sin we give leeway to satan too.

Satan uses our sins to condemn us, pull us down, keep us from moving forward or upward. For example, before you were saved you might have been involved in some things that you now wish you hadn't of participated in. Whenever you run into an individual, that knew you back then and how you used to be - the things you used to do....you begin to feel condemned.

Your past behavior and actions come back to mind and it's hard to shake them. Your joy is affected and your mood. You might even slip into a depression as you begin to wallow in the past. Most likely you will have some if not all of the following thoughts run through your mind too: 'I've failed as a Christian;' 'I'm not cut out for this;' 'I'm not a good witness;' 'I should just stop trying;' and so on.

DON'T GIVE UP OR GIVE IN

Satan knows how to get us off track for God and focusing on the past and our failures. Instead, ask yourself first if you've:

Asked God for forgiveness
Tried to made restitution and seek forgiveness of the other individual (if applicable). Don't feel bad if the person does not say they forgive you, etc. You did what you are suppose to do, which is say you are sorry and seek their forgiveness now it is between them and God.

If you've done all those things and are still having the thoughts about the failure then it is the devil giving you those thoughts to keep you depressed and hinder your walk with Christ. So, we have to "bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5 KJV). Recognize it for what it is - condemnation from satan. Dismiss it from your mind, knowing that as a Child of God your sins are forgiven and that God doesn't condemn you - He loves you.

He forgives and forgets! And, we are to do the same. So don't beat yourself up or allow satan to do so. Learn from your mistakes and move forward Christian soldier!

The following song by Casting Crowns shows the difference between conviction and condemnation....

"Here I am, Lord, and I'm drowning in your sea of forgetfulness. The chains of yesterday surround me.

I yearn for peace and rest. I don't want to end up where You found me and it echoes in my mind, keeps me awake tonight. I know You've cast my sin as far as the east is from the west. And, I stand before You now as though I've never sinned, but today I feel like I'm just one mistake away from You leaving me this way.

Jesus, can You show me just how far the east is from the west. 'Cause I can't bear to see the man I've been come rising up in me again.

In the arms of Your mercy I find rest. 'Cause You know just how far the east is from the west...from one scarred hand to the other.

I start the day, the war begins, endless reminding of my sin. Time and time again Your truth is drowned out by the storm I'm in. Today I feel like I'm just one mistake away from You leaving me this way.

I know You've washed me white, turned my darkness into light. I need Your peace to get me through, to get me through this night. I can't live by what I feel, but by the truth Your word reveals. I'm not holding on to You, but You're holding on to me. You're holding on to me.

Jesus, You know just how far the east is from the west. I don't have to see the man I've been come rising up in me again. In the arms of Your mercy I find rest. 'Cause You know just how far the east is from the west. From one scarred hand to the other. From one scarred hand to the other." (Casting Crowns: East to West).

Posted on Youtube: amber4099

He Takes Care of His Children!

2011-02-23T19:05:00.000-08:00

Just like a parent takes care of their child(ren), so God takes care of His own. If your child is hungry and ask for food, would you give him dirt to eat? No, of course not.

"Which of you fathers, if your son ask for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he ask for an egg, will give him a scorpion?

If you then, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!" (Luke 11:11-13).

I am so thankful to be a child of God! He is the best Father anyone could ever have. He loves unconditionally, showers me with His grace at times when I need it most.

He forgives and forgets my sins as far as the east is from the west and 70 x 7 (or rather infinitely) when I ask with a sincere heart. He bestows His mercy upon me when I don't deserve it. And, yes He does chastise me when I do what I shouldn't, but He does so with love.

He never belittles, He's never sarcastic; never hateful, never a harsh word, doesn't manipulate, doesn't show favoritism and the list goes on.

There's a place at His table and in His home for everyone! So what are you waiting for - come have a seat.

Posted on youtube: JakeSD19

I love hearing the kids sing in this!

Marriage Worth Fighting For

2011-02-20T12:41:00.000-08:00

I have spoken with married couples and divorcees about the struggles and hardships they've experienced in their marriage.

Some talk about falling out of love with each other, or feeling that the other isn't even trying to keep the marriage going, worries about how the kids are being affected, etc. Marriage is no walk in the park. It takes both people working together. Know that your marriage is really worth fighting for!

Take a look at this short 5 min. interview of Matt - with Sanctus Real (music band) - and his wife about his latest hit song "Lead Me" and the real story behind the song...their marriage struggles and outcome.

Posted on youtube: E MI

Do you believe in second chances?

Now, take a look at this video of "The Scruggs." Short bio: they were married and had kids together. She cheating on him and they got a divorce. She later came to know Christ as her Savior and asked her ex for a second chance. He wasn't willing to at....watch the rest to find out what happened and the outcome of it all - Click on the link below:
Seconds - I Am Second

Happiness vs. Joy

2011-02-19T08:51:00.000-08:00

Did you know there is a difference between happiness and joy? Often the two are confused as one in the same.

Happiness comes and goes like the wind. Circumstance and things make us happy, but only temporarily. For example, when someone gives you a gift you like - you are happy. Do you remain happy the next day, or the next because of that one gift? No. Unless something else good happens then that happiness you expressed over the gift fades away. Or rather the way you expressed your happiness over the gift begins to fade away, which doesn't mean you are then unhappy...just not expressing outward happiness.

Joy on the other hand, is like a light house. It is sturdy and constant even in the midst of a storm. It doesn't depend on things and circumstances to keep it going and it isn't tossed about by the wind. In fact, all heck could brake loose in your life and yet your joy remain. You express joy differently verses how you express happiness, since there again they are different from one another. Unlike happiness, your joy doesn't fade on a whim.

I tend to smile a lot, which some have taken to mean that I am always happy. Occasionally maybe, but no way could I be happy all the time. My smiling is just one way I express the joy within me. The joy of my salvation and assurance in Christ. However, I too have days like everyone else...I call them pity parties and since they are no fun, I try not have them often if possible. :-)

JOY is an acronym for J = Jesus, O = Others, and Y = You
You can have joy by placing Jesus first in your life, others second and yourself last. Self sacrificing.

Jesus is sturdy, never changing - the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. He is like that of a house built on the sturdy foundation of a rock. Nothing is going to move it, shake it, or brake it. You can depend on Him even more than you can depend on that.

So, by placing Jesus first in your life, you know that no matter what life throws your way you can lean on Him and place it all in His hands. Knowing His Will will be done about it (Romans 8:28 NIV). Thus freeing you up to be there for others around you experiencing difficult situations. A selfless act just like our Savior when He came to earth to die on the cross for you and I - in order that we might have life...eternal life in Him.

It is hard to explain the joy you receive in your life when you lay aside your own wants and desires in order to do for someone else - especially when it cost you to do so.

I'm talking about a self sacrificing gift like giving someone in need of a meal, the very meal you were going to eat. Therefore you go without, so that he/she can have.

Just like the Twila Paris song: "The joy of the Lord will be my strength, I will not falter, I will not faint, He is my Shepherd, I am not afraid - for the joy of the Lord is my strength."

Posted on Youtube by: isbaptist

Do You Need Peace Of Mind?

2011-02-19T07:22:00.000-08:00

Are you searching to fill the void within? Need something to complete you?

Then look no further. I suggest what has completed me and filled the void in my life - Jesus.

Aren't sure? What all have you tried that didn't fill your void?

"I tried everything, done anything, been everywhere, but nothing seemed to satisfy within - I finally turned to the one place I hadn't tried...Jesus. In fact, I had been running from Him, hoping to find the answer somewhere else. I guess I didn't want to give up certain things in my life that I knew where not good, but I just couldn't let go." (B.G.).

The following song by DcTalk speaks of us trying to fill the emptiness within us with temporary fixes. It's like putting a band aid on an open wound that needs stitches. People are quick to get assistance when they have medical problems - so why then aren't they quick to do so with more important life questions, like eternity?

"Under these circumstances, they can hardly cope. Notice their fleeting glances and their lack of hope. I offer this suggestion, they don't seem to care-o. This is my generation, drowning in despair-o.

You'll never find peace of mind in your pool of self.
You'll never find peace of mind in a sea of wealth.
You'll never find peace of mind in your rock and roll.
You'll never find peace of mind if you sell your soul.

You gotta like it, you gotta love it, I know you need some freedom from the strife
You gotta like it, you gotta love it, I know you need some Jesus in your life

We circumvent our feelings through an angry sound. He who complains the loudest, wears the fattest crown. We're anti-everybody, call it paranoia. Well, I ain't no judge or jury, but I'm praying for ya.

You'll never find peace of mind in your lucky charm
You'll never find peace of mind on a hippie farm
You'll never find peace of mind in a one-night stand
You'll never find peace of mind in your superman

You gotta like it, you gotta love it, I know you need some freedom from the strife

You gotta like it, you gotta love it, I know you need some Jesus in your life
You gotta like it, you gotta love it, I know you need it

You gotta like it, you gotta love it, I know you need some Jesus in your life

Like it, love it, need it, don't leave it!
Like it, love it, need it, don't leave it!

Ya dropped right into the middle of a freak attack, cause we're back and we're comin' like that
and see we're lowerin' the boom in the middle of the tune, cause the funk is always heavy where it's at. And while you're whining all the time, never changing any minds and it's clear to see your lip has lost its button...

Cause if ya take a think at this
Then its easy to admit
That the selfish way you're livin' is for nothing

You gotta like it, you gotta love it, I know you need some freedom from the strife
You gotta like it, you gotta love it, I know you need some Jesus in your life" (DcTalk "Like it, Love it, Need it).

Posted on Youtube by: Lautrxin

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Tragedy - Grief - Mercy & Grace

2011-02-17T08:00:00.000-08:00

Tragedy and Grief:

Have you ever noticed, that when tragedy strikes in someone's life they tend to remember specific details like the date and time, etc.? For example, take the Sept. 11th attacks...ask people where they were and what they were doing on that day - and they will most likely be able to tell you verbatim.

I find that interesting. How the mind retains information more so when something negative happens then when something good takes place. I guess that is one reason why God tells us in His word to 'count our blessings' when we are feeling down.

The actual act of bringing to memory blessings received helps to encourage and remind us - of the times when God brought us through an event in our life (that at that moment we didn't see a way out of, or even how any good could possible come of it).

Everyone deals with loss differently. Some cry...get angry...hold in their emotions...withdrawal from everyone around them...do things they never would have normally done, disassociated, etc. What about you? How do you grieve?

I'm a mixture. I usually hold it all in and cry when I'm alone. However, sometimes I have cried at the most inappropriate times due to hearing, or seeing something that reminds me of the loved one dead and gone. For some types of tragedies, I tend to disassociate in order to remain in control of my feelings.

One such time, I dealt with tragedy by disassociating was when my uncle was murdered. At that time, my grandmother needed someone to be strong for her to lean on. What was really hard for me, was in court when the DA showed a picture of my uncle after he'd been shot in the head twice. I couldn't help but cry when I saw him like that. I wasn't prepared for it. No one really is prepared for things like that.

And, just like I could tell you where I was and what I was doing when the attacks occurred on Sept. 11th...I can also tell you the same for the night my uncle was murdered; because, I unknowingly listened to the alert of his death on my scanner.

That Night:

It was a cold Wednesday evening. The date was February 28th, 2001 and I was 17 years old. I had been to church that evening and returned home shortly before 8 p.m.

I was about to go back out for some Steak-n-Shake roughly between 9 and 10 p.m., when I heard police sirens. Police sirens were not uncommon in our neck of the woods. We (mom and I) lived in an apartment complex, that provided more entertainment than our TV set.

In fact, we only had to look outside and we could watch the show "cops" live.That's right, I've seen people cutting drugs on the hood of their car, shooting guns down the side walk at each other, drug deals gone wrong, dirty dancing (and no I'm not referring to the movie)...you name it.

When I heard the sirens, I grabbed my scanner. It was a 10-80 (chase in progress) via vehicle and they were headed our way. I ran to the window just in time to see the guy drive by with 3 cop cars tailing behind him. It was Johnathan. Yep, I recognized the guy behind the wheel of the speeding car. They made another loop and then left the area. Mom and I prayed for Johnathan and the officers. Then, when I thought the cost was clear...I headed to my car (with the scanner in toe).

As I drove round the corner of the last building - I was almost hit head on by...you guessed it...Johnathan and all the cops not far behind him. I slammed on my breaks and said another prayer - this time adding a part about my own safety. Then I turned on my scanner and drove out of the complex as they headed in the opposite direction.

Somewhere along the way, I must have hit the 'scan' button on the scanner; because, I remember hearing about Johnathan crashing and then the next thing I hear is there's been a shooting. Someone is badly hurt....they think even dead.

Once back home, mom and I sat around the scanner for what seemed like an eternity just listening and praying. We thought it was Johnathan that had possible shot himself. Then the police switched to channel two, which meant they were going to a private channel to talk further.

When our phone rang around five or so in the morning - we didn't put two and two together. However, I'll never forget my mothers scream after answering the phone. 'No!' she shouted and began crying as she passed me the phone. Realization kicked in as my grandfather on the other end of the line told me Butch was dead and said 'he's been shot.'

The shooting I had heard announced on the scanner was a separate incident to Johnathan's chase and ultimate car crash. And, the shooting victim was my uncle. At first, I couldn't believe it. I didn't want to believe it. He was not only the only father figure I had, but as far as I knew he wasn't saved. I was in shock. It just didn't feel real. Who would want to kill my uncle? He was kind to everyone and willing to help anyone. In fact, he had actually been doing a favor for the person who ended up killing him.

Mercy and Grace:

I understood God's mercy and grace better after the murder trial. As it could have so easily of been the other man dead and my uncle going away for murder. "There, but for the grace of God go you or I."

I was really proud of my grandmother. Having already lost one child to vehicular homicide (ran over by a drunk driver in front of her & her son - blood splattering them both) and now her son - that witnessed his sisters death - is murdered, in spite of it all she remained calm and strong. She also made a point to reach out and comfort the other family by sitting with them and talking to them during the trial.

This move on her part caused quite a stir amongst some of our family members. But I love her response: "they (the murderer's family) haven't done anything to me. It is their son that killed my son - not them. Just like my son has been taken away from me in death, so their son is being taken away from them to be sent to prison. God would have me treat them as I would want to be treated if the shoe were on the other foot."And, she told their son that she forgave him for taking her sons life.

That's true mercy and grace. Mercy is when you've done something wrong and should be punished, but instead you receive mercy (you are not punished, or do not receive as harsh a punishment as you could). Grace is when you've done nothing to deserve something good and you receive that something good anyway.

He Holds My Heart

2011-02-16T08:00:00.000-08:00

Tenth Avenue North: "Hold My Heart"
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Does this song speak to you? Could this be you right now? If so, I pray God not only holds your heart, but also answers your prayer quickly.

I can so relate to this song. According to the band "Tenth Avenue North," each member was going through a rough time in their life when they composed this song.

Some people think that; because, I tend to smile a lot that I haven't had to deal with grief; tragedy; or pain but they would be wrong. I guess I've just learned how to hide it.

Do you hide what your going through too? I don't know if hiding it is a good thing, or not. However, I do know that everyone deals with grief and tragedies in their life differently. So, remember that the next time you see someone acting out of character. It may be that they are going through a difficult time in their life and could use a listening ear, or shoulder to cry on. And, try to show them the patience you would want exhibited to you.

I am so thankful that I know Christ as my Savior. He has held my heart many times and been my strength when I had none. I can go to Him anytime and anywhere. And, He truly understands how I feel as He has "been there." I could never have made this far if it had not been for Him by my side or carrying me. And, He'll do the same for you too!

A friend shared the following quote with me and I want to share it with you:
"When I got enough confidence, the stage was gone. When I was sure of losing, I won. When I needed people the most, they left me. When I learnt to dry my tears, I found a shoulder to cry on. And when I mastered the skill of hating, somebody started loving me!" - Shakespear.

A Love Song For You

2011-02-13T12:58:00.000-08:00

"Well, I've heard it said that a man would climb a mountain just to be with the one he loves.
How many times has he broken that promise? It has never been done.

Well, I've never climbed the highest mountain, but I've walked the hill of Calvary. Just to be with you, I would do anything. There's no price I would not pay. Just to be with you, I would give everything. Yes, I would give my life away.

And, I've heard it said that a man would swim the oceans just to be with the one he loves. But all of those dreams are an empty emotion. It can never be done.

Well, I've never swam the deepest ocean, but I walked upon the raging sea. And, just to be with you, I would do anything. There's no price I would not pay. Just to be with you, I would give everything. Yes, I'd give my life away.

And, I know that you don't understand the fullness of my love...how I died upon the cross for your sins. And, I know that you don't realize how much that I gave you and I promise that I would do it all again!

Just to be with you I've done everything. There's no price I did not pay. Just to be with you I gave everything. Yes, I gave my life away. Just to be with YOU" (Third Day music band).

My favorite band - Third Day:

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Fall In Love!

2011-02-12T16:22:00.000-08:00

Have you ever fallen in love? Head over heels in love?

I'm sure you've seen people who have. They are easy to spot...you'll see them walking around like they're on "cloud nine." Notice the extra spring in their step too. They also have a positive outlook on just about everything and cannot wait to spend time with their better half.

Time for them is usually spent studying each other.

"When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. If the amount he studied her before marriage was equal to a high school degree - he should continue to learn about her until he gains a college degree, a master's degree and ultimately, a doctorate degree. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers" (quote from the movie Fireproof).

I love that quote! And ladies, we too have to continue to study our man.

I recently question a married person about married life: "After years of married life some couples tend to become intolerant with each other."

True love is not based upon feelings as feelings tend to change over time. Love and especially marriage takes an effort from both people.

Here's a short clip from the movie fireproof with the scene of the quote above.

Posted on youtube: Fireproof

Now, take everything mentioned above and it's also true about your one-on-one relationship with Christ. Just like you would study someone you are in love with...so should we study Christ through His word in order to get to know Him better. Each saved person has their own special walk with the Lord. We are all at different levels or stages so-to-speak.

However, one way to describe the joy of coming to know Christ as ones Savior is done perfectly through the following song by Jason Gray called "More Like Falling in love." Because, it is truly like falling in love.

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"You Are More" & "By Your Side"

2011-02-11T17:21:00.000-08:00

A gift of love to you before "Valentine's Day" was even created.

When you reach rock bottom and don't have enough strength to look up...If you've fallen off the wagon and lie broken and ashamed...Wondered down a path you thought you'd never take...Been places you never saw yourself going...Done things you wished later that you hadn't - then remember:

You've not fallen too far for love. You are not alone and "you are more."

God loves you and is there for you when no one else is. He is closer than a father, mother, sister, brother, friend, girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, etc. He alone knows the pain your going through - the abandonment your experiencing. And, He loves you no matter what you've done enough to die for you.

There is rest in His arms, mercy and grace in His eyes, healing in His hands and peace on His path. His hands will hold you and lift you up.

Take a look at the following music videos by Tenth Avenue North called "You Are More" and "By Your Side"

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For My Valentine

2011-02-02T19:14:00.000-08:00

It's official...February is here and Valentine's Day is just around the corner. The count down begins.

So, what are you planning on giving your valentine? A hand written poem you wrote? A love letter?

If your single, don't get discouraged during this holiday. Use your time wisely. I recall the following suggestion from a book I once read: 'when your single during Valentine's Day, take the time to compose love letters, poems, or notes to your future spouse. Keep them in a safe place and when you do marry - surprise your spouse with them on the first Valentine's Day you are together.'

Your spouse will enjoy reading what you wrote. They will also feel special as each item was created for their eyes only and saved for that special day.

What kind of letters?

Letters that discuss how you long to meet him or her. What kind of valentine's day you would like to spend with them once you've met, etc. You can also list questions you would like to ask them and so on. And yes, I have a few letters stashed away myself. :-)

This particular holiday can be very hard on singles. Personally, It doesn't bother me like it used too. I may be the scrooge of valentine's day when I say this, but to me valentine's day seems to be just a commercialized holiday. Don't get me wrong, I like the whole chocolate and flowers thing.

However, when I am courting I don't want the man in my life to feel as though he has to buy me things on that day. There are other more meaningfully ways to express your love for someone.

To me, actions speak louder than gifts. Besides, if your loved one only expresses his or her love for you on valentine's day - then there's a problem. True love is shown throughout the relationship not just on days deemed special on a calendar!

So what are you waiting on! Get started on a love letter and/or poem today.

Other Meaningful Gifts Money Can't Buy:

Time: going out of your way, to spend extra time with your loved one in a way he or she would prefer.
Fulfilling a request that your loved one made - that hasn't been fulfilled by you yet.
Doing a household chore your loved one hates, but is normally the one to do.
etc.

Watchfully Waiting

2011-01-31T20:18:00.000-08:00

So we've discussed "making a list" of the pros and cons you want and don't want in a relationship. Now, let's discuss watchful waiting.

I don't know about you, but I like to observe people. You learn a lot just by watching. Just go sit in the middle of the mall on a bench and watch people going from store to store. See how they interact with each other... especially the married and dating couples.

Sometimes it is easier for those looking into a relationship from the outside, to see things that those on the inside can't because they are blinded by love.

If you have found someone you are interested in then here are some things to observe that will help you determine if he/she is right for you:

How does he/she treat their parent(s)? What about their sibling(s)? [i.e. talk back, disrespectful, argumentative, rebellious, one way to their face and another way behind their back, etc.]
Is he/she respectful to elders?
How about mannerly? (hold the door open for others and for you, etc.)
Does he/she consider other peoples needs before their own?
What is his/her actions, attitude, language, etc. with friends?
What about at work...how does he/she interact with co-workers and supervisors?
Are they a Jekyll and Hyde when it comes to family verses friends, etc.
And, if you have the ability - ask questions of their family, friends, co-workers on how that persons previous relationships went. And, if needed...read between the lines.

However, you see the person interacting with family, friends, co-workers, etc. is a good indicator in how he/she will be towards you. Plus, if during your observance you do not see them being respectful, mannerly, mindful of others, etc. then heads up "what you see is what you get."

Meaning, don't be foolish! Don't expect to enter into a relationship with this person and them treat you any different then how they already treat their own family, friends and so on. If you don't like how they treat those closest to them right now, then do not enter into a relationship with them. Be smart!

Submit?

2011-01-28T06:00:00.000-08:00

"I will follow thee whithersoever thou goest" (Matthew 8:19 KJV).

When I think of the words to Chris Tomlin's song "I will follow," I think of wedding vows that a bride might say to her future husband.

"Where you go, I'll go

Where you stay, I'll stay

When you move, I'll move

I will follow" (Chris Tomlin)

God tells us ladies, to submit to our husband. The words above speak of that kind of submission. Many women have stepped away from being submissive wives; because, they think that means being a doormat. It doesn't. There is a difference.

We are to submit to our husband just like we are to submit to God. "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22).

No, I'm not saying that it will be easy all the time - God didn't promise us that. There will be times when you disagree on things, but the fact of the matter remains that God placed man to be the head of the household. "For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing" (Ephesians 5:23-24).

In Every Thing?

Yes, from major and minor decisions to even sex. If you really do not have a 'headache' then don't say that you do - that's lying. God tells us not to withhold ourselves from each other (even if your not in the mood). "The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:4 New International Version).

He goes on to warn us of what will happen if we rebel against this and refuse to be with our spouse. "Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command" (1 Corinthians 7:5-6 NIV).

So even if your husband makes unwise decisions that cost and/or effect you (and your children if you have some) to the negative....he is still the head of the household.

God did not give us the right to usurp our husband. Usurping is also not a desire from God. Of course, we are human and will at times sin in this way. "For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23). So don't be hard on yourself if you fail. Instead, work on catching yourself before you give in to this temptation again. One way to do that, is to practice James 1:19 "be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger."

The most important and effective thing you can do as a wife when you disagree with your husband on something - is to pray. Now remember this works both ways. So husbands, you too should pray when you disagree with your wife. Prayer is powerful. Cry out to God about how you feel.

First, I would ask God to kindly help you see if you are in the wrong on the matter, so that you can apologize to your spouse. Humble yourself. Also, I would ask Him that if you are not in the wrong that He would kindly help your spouse to see that s/he is. I would also ask that He do so quickly as you don't want there to be a separation for long within yours and your spouses heart over any matter. As it can create bitterness and resentment. Nor do you want to continue incurring negative consequences for whatever action was already taken that possible shouldn't have been.

Never....let me repeat....throw up to your spouse that you prayed for God to change his heart or mind on a matter. You wouldn't want him to do that to you - would you?
Remember the golden rule - which is Biblical - "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you" (Matthew 7:12 NIV). However, if you are asked by your spouse if you prayed about the situation then of course don't lie. "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but harsh words stir up anger" (Proverbs 15:1).

What is even better, is if both you and your spouse have the kind of close relationship where you can pray together on the matter. Both laying aside your pride ("pride goeth before destruction and an haughty spirit before a fall" Proverbs 16:18).

"Be wrong to be right!" - not sure who said this, but I like it.

A marriage centered on God by both the husband and the wife brings them ever closer to each other. The reason is because they are focusing on living for God, His commands and guidance for their daily lives. Take the above information for example. By following God's advice above about humbling yourselves, submitting to each other and praying about conflicts your spouse will be glad that you aren't trying to argue your point, or push them into making a discussion they don't want to make. That will bring you both closer; because, your spouse won't resent you for not trying to tell them what to do. Who would?

In the picture below you have both the husband and wife focusing on living for God and so the closer they get in their relationship with God - the closer they get to one another.

"I Will Follow" - By Chris Tomlin

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Do you sit on the fence?

2011-01-27T09:01:00.000-08:00

There was a large pasture separated by a fence. Jesus occupied one side of the fence and satan the other. One day a man began to walk toward the pastures. Jesus invited him over to his side and satan likewise. Undecided, the man climbed the fence and sat on top in order to think some more.

(google images: ruateam.com)

Time passed and the man made no decision. Finally, satan approached the man and commanded: "Come with me."

"What?" "Do you not see that I am straddling the fence and have not chosen you or God?" the man replied a bit bewildered.

"I see," said satan. "However, the decision to not choose is actually a decision itself in disguise - for I own the fence and you are now mine."

Whom do you choose?

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Example of True Love Waits (TLW)

2011-01-26T18:48:00.000-08:00

A contemporary Christian singer by the name of Rebecca St. James (who also happens to be a favorite singer of mine) has just announced her engagement to Jacob Fink.

What is so special about her engagement?

She is 33 years old and a virgin - "promising a lifestyle of sexual purity until marriage" (Rebecca St. James Website). She is a big promoter and supporter of the True Love Waits program as well as pro-life.

Ten years ago, she wrote a song to her future husband (not knowing at the time who it would be) called "Wait for Me." And, he did just that.

Here is a picture of the happy couple on her parents farm in Tennessee this past Christmas, which is also when and where he proposed. How romantic!

JoshHarris.com "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" author & friend of Rebecca St. James

Old Fashioned?

Some call it old fashioned - I call it romantic and the right way to do it! Jacob Fink asked Rebecca's parents for "their blessing" first and then surprised Rebecca with the engagement ring.

Congratulations Rebecca and Jacob!!

Friendship + Marriage

2011-01-22T12:23:00.000-08:00

I think the best kind of marriage is one that starts out in friendship. As friends, you can get to know each other better than if you were dating. Why? Instead of trying to hide all your faults and appear as the perfect soul mate to try and impress the other person, as friends you lay those masks down and show your true self. Let's face it, eventually in a dating relationship you are going to let your true self and feelings show, which will either make or break a dating relationship. But a friendship is different....

As friends you feel more free to be yourself knowing your not going to scare the other person away
True friends are with you till the end through thick and thin, sickness and health, richer or poorer...
They tell you the truth even if you don't want to hear it; because, they care about you
They encourage you when your down
Stick up for you
Don't care if your breath stinks (ok, well maybe a little exaggeration there, but they don't let that stop them from being your friend). :-)
You don't have to be fixed up all the time to hang out together

Everything, I just described to you about friendship is actually how God intended marriage to be: honest, faithful, true, honorable, trustworthy, caring, loving, there for each other through thick and thin, loves you even if your breath stinks, etc. :-)

Marriage shouldn't be taken lightly. It is a life long commitment. Just read slowly over the wedding vows that are usually said during the wedding ceremony and you will see just how serious a commitment like marriage is: "to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish; from this day forward until death do us part."

I darkened some of the words above because too often people think of marriage as a bed of roses...just "for better, richer and in health."They forget the other parts of the wedding vow they not only repeated during the ceremony, but actually - as the titled says "vowed" to do for their spouse.

When you marry your best friend - and life throws you curve balls during the marriage (as it does in all marriages) you will have the foundation of your friendship to fall back on and assist you during those rocky times. A good foundation is needed in a marriage.

A good example, is the kind of foundation needed to build a house on - one that last and is sturdy. This is also a biblical example Jesus gave. A wise person would build their home (relationship) upon a rock. A rock is sturdy, long lasting, can with stand storms of any kind, etc.

kenraggio (google images)

A foolish person builds their house (relationship) upon the sand. Sand isn't sturdy or long lasting. It caves in during any storm and so the house (relationship) falls apart and quickly. Leaving people broken and devastated.

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"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.

But who ever hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash" ( Matthew 7:24-29 NIV).

No Strings Attached - Really?

2011-01-21T17:19:00.000-08:00

I just noticed on fandango, a new movie that is out in theaters now called, "No Strings Attached."

If you've read read my part 1 of "2nd Rate Sex" and disagree with what was said then take a look at the trailer for that movie.

The movie clearly shows that 'you can't play with fire and not expect to get burned.' As the synopsis states: two friends go beyond their friendship by being intimate with each other outside of marriage. However, they don't want to fall in love with one another as they fear it will ruin their friendship, but now that they have had sex they want to continue being physical if they can keep from falling love.

God intended sex to be a wonderful thing between a man and woman who are married. Hence, the true way of being able to have sex with "no strings attached." No strings of guilt, worry, stress, pregnancy out of wedlock, sexually transmitted diseases and the list goes on.

We were creatively made by God to be joined together as one flesh and procreate. "Haven't you read, he replied, that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? (Matthew 19:4-5 NIV).

"The man said, 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man. For this is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh" (Genesis 2:23-24 NIV).

Having sex outside of marriage will always have strings attached...as you can tell from the movie clip they do fall in love and deal with lots of heartache in trying to just keep the relationship physical. God created us to have deep feelings and emotions for the person we are being intimate with (hence why we are suppose to be married), which is also why you cannot run or hide from it - you cannot have a relationship based only on the physical. One or both will eventually want more - a commitment.

Have you heard the statement, "Don't put the cart before the horse"? Sounds crazy right? Why would anyone whose transportation is a horse drawn buggy - put the buggy in front of the horse? They would have to know it wouldn't work....the horse can't push the buggy. They pull buggies! The same is true with sex. That statement is used at times to describe a couple who put the buggy (sex) before the horse (marriage) thinking it would work - only to realize they were wrong and be left with regret, guilt, hurt feelings, heartache, and sometimes much more.

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If you've put the 'cart before the horse' and have the regrets - know that you can put all that behind you and move forward from this day on. How?

God forgives! Each day is a new day with Him. "Because of the Lord's great mercies we are not consumed, for his compassion's never fail. They are new every morning" (Lamentations 3:22-23).

If you are a child of His then repent and ask for His forgiveness, which He freely gives to you. If you do not know Christ as your Savior then trust Him right now and accept His wonderful free gift of forgiveness for all of your sins: past, present and future. Click here "Love is Calling" to find out how you can be forgiven.

Make A List

2011-01-17T09:13:00.000-08:00

As mentioned in "The Dating Question" post, we should get to know ourselves and what we want in a relationship/spouse first, before we start dating.

One way to do this is to make a list. Putting pen to paper forces us to really think about what truly matters to us in a spouse.

What kind of list are we talking about? Glad you asked!

In the book "Date or soul mate?" we are given "the 50 most popular must-haves and can't stands" in a spouse/relationship.

Here are a few examples taken from the book (pgs. 77 - 84 / 89-95) on the "must-haves" and "can't-stands" that will help give you an idea for your own list.

It is suggested that you come up with a total of 20 (10 must haves & 10 can't stands). Note: the book didn't give a "can't-stand" for every category and you don't have to break your list down by category either.

"Traits:

Chemistry. I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to the person.
Communicator. I must have someone who is good at both talking and listening
Loyal. I must have someone I can count on to always be in my corner.
Lying. I can't stand someone who lies to anyone - especially to me.
Angry. I can't stand someone who cannot manage his or her anger, who yells or bottles it up inside.
Drugs. I can't stand someone who uses illegal recreational drugs.

Values:

Family life. I must have someone who is committed to marriage, home, and family.
Shared Interests. I must have someone who is willing to share my interests and passions.
Style and Appearance. I must have someone who cares about the way they look and dress and has a sense of personal style.
Shared Politics. I must have someone who has political beliefs which are the same or similar to my own.
Foul-Mouthed. I can't stand someone who swears or uses inappropriate language or humor.
Arrogant. I can't stand someone who is obnoxiously cocky.
Extremely Shy. I can't stand someone who is so shy that he or she cannot open up and share with me.
Pornography. I can't stand someone who views or owns pornography in any form.
Flirts. I can't stand someone who constantly flirts with the opposite sex.

Family:

Family. I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children.
No Children. I must have someone who shares my desire to not have children.
Stepchildren. I must have someone who will accept my children as his or her own.

Social Living:

Staying In. I must have someone who mainly enjoys staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close friends.
Sociability. I must have someone who loves to socialize with lots of different people.

Spirituality:

Spirituality. I must have someone with a similar deep commitment to spirituality and who shares my beliefs.
Religious Practice. I must have someone who is committed to being an active member of a church.

Financial / Career:

Responsible. Someone who is financially responsible.
Ambitious. Must have someone who shares my desire to achieve high financial and/or career goals.

Sexuality:

Abstinent. Someone who has saved himself or herself sexually for marriage.
Traditional. Someone who is reserved and traditional in his or her sexual needs."

Now, it's time for you to come up with your own. While I would like to see what each of you come up with - our lists are private and personal. Hence, the reason I am not sharing mine with you.

Joshua Harris suggest in his book, "I kissed dating goodbye" that you use your list as a determining factor when looking at prospective daters.

Your list will help you weed out bad relationships before they even begin! Saving you and the other person time, undue stress and heartache.

Click here to read the post: "The Dating Question"

The Dating Question

2011-01-16T12:46:00.000-08:00

Are you dating anyone? Your not getting any younger! Why haven't you settled down?

Have you heard these questions and statements before? I sure have. I'm 27 and don't date.

Of course, I have had plenty of family members try and introduce me to single guys they know. However, after years of me turning down their offers of assistance they don't try anymore, but instead look at me as though I were from mars. :-)

Being single isn't that much of an oddity. For some reason our culture has it in their mind that you cannot be single. That kind of thinking places undue stress on single people to get out there and find that right one.

One of the main reasons I always turned down my family for help with finding someone for me was because we; unfortunately, do not share the same values and morals. Therefore, the person they had picked out for me was more like what they themselves would want in a relationship and nothing like what I would want.

The most important advice someone once gave me was, "get to know yourself first: your needs, wants, desires, can't stands, etc. before you introduce someone else into the mix."

What that statement means, is instead of going through relationships in order to find out things about yourself (what you could put up with and couldn't in a relationship, etc.) - learn more about yourself first in group settings. Your friends will speak truthfully to you, which will give you some insight. This way you are also not playing with someones heart in the process.

Then when you have a better idea of what you want in a relationship - you are more likely to choose carefully and wisely.

There are several books that are very helpful in the field of relationships. I highly recommend the following:

"I Kissed Dating Goodbye" By Joshua Harris (Don't let this title fool you! He isn't saying stop dating).
"Boy Meets Girl" By: Joshua Harris
"Date or Soul Mate?" By: Neil Clark Warren, ph.d
"For Women Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men" By: Shaunti Feldhahn
"For Men Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of women" By: Shaunti Feldhahn
"When God writes your love story" By: Eric and Leslie Ludy

View the next post to this topic by clicking here, "Make A List"

Life of a Christian - Supernatural

2011-01-16T12:02:00.000-08:00

"The secret of a Christian is that the supernatural is made natural in him by the grace of God, and the experience of this works out in the practical details of life, not in times of communion with God" - Oswald Chambers

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"A Supernatural High"

2011-01-15T19:59:00.000-08:00

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Hanging On By A Thread?

2011-01-15T19:07:00.000-08:00

Are you barely holding on?

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Whenever I've felt that the whole world was against me and/or that I didn't have any hope....

I would take some time out. There have been different ways for me to do this:

Sometimes, I would take a nap (the time frame varies), take a drive out of town in order to change my environment, watch a movie or read a book that would capture my full attention and therefore take my mind of my circumstances and the list goes on.

Each has helped me to refocus on what really matters in life - my relationship with my Heavenly Father - and to remind me what God says, "do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell" (Matthew 10:28 NIV).

Music is another good way to refocus. When we sing songs of praise to God - we can't help, but be brought out of the mire for we are placing our focus on Him.

Here are three songs by my two favorite Christian artists Mac Powell with Third Day and Toby Mac that have helped me:

"Call My Name" by Third Day

Posted on Youtube by: jordanbama

"Hold On" by Toby Mac

Posted on Youtube by: cs10sami

"Revelation" by Third Day

Posted on Youtube by: PKCSP

No Words Only Silent Tears

2011-01-11T14:36:00.000-08:00

Have you ever been so hurt or saddened that you could not speak...all you could do is cry? Cry until your sides hurt and no more tears flowed.

I've been there too. There are nights when I have cried myself to sleep recently. Why? I was pouring my heart out to God. Thankfully, even when we cannot speak or form words for a prayer to God - He still hears our groans and knows our hearts. "In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And He who searches our hearts knows" (Romans 8:26-27 NIV).

"That I have great sorrow and continual grief in my heart. For I could wish that myself were accursed from Christ for my brethren" (Romans 9:2-3, Paul speaks of his sorrow).

Just like the scripture states above, my heart breaks for so many I know, who don't know the same loving; merciful and gracious Saviour as their own. And like Paul - If it were possible, I would give up my own life in order that each one of them would come to know Him.

That they may no longer be bound by the chains satan has around each one.

The chains of unhealthy relationships...addiction: alcohol, drug, porn, gambling, etc. The chains of false religion and so many more. I don't want to see anyone die and go to hell, but instead have everlasting life in Christ.

Think of it this way:

If your a parent, when you see your child run out into a street unaware of the danger of a coming car, do you stand there and say watch out - or do you yell watch out as you run to try and pluck them from harms way? The later of course.

The same is true for Christians in two respects. First, God is like our parent and He sees things we cannot (we are just like that child mentioned above), so we have to trust Him and his guidance as your child trusts and depends on you. Second, as a Christian we can see more clearly now things we didn't used to. It's similar to growing up and how you can look back and understand why your parents said 'don't do that,' except now we can see the danger ahead and have to make the choice of going ahead knowing what awaits us, or not. Sometimes a some what tougher decision to have to make.

So since we can see up ahead around the bend so-to-speak and know what danger awaits our friends, loved ones, etc. that do not know Christ as their Saviour...then should it not break our hearts? Like it would a parents heart to see their child choose a path full of destruction and not be able to save them from it. Knowing at times they may have to learn from their own experiences no matter how hard.

Being a Christian is also like having the cure for cancer. Of course you would tell people about it, show them, invite them to receive the cure so that they too could be free from the pain, destruction and even death cancer brings, but ultimately knowing the decision is completely up to them. But how it would break your heart to offer such a wonderful free gift and it be refused.

Amy Grant's song "Better Than a Hallelujah" speaks of the same wordless cries...

Posted on Youtube by: EMI

Bite the dust!

2011-01-10T21:40:00.000-08:00

Do remember the song by the group Queen called, "Another one bites the dust?"

Well, have you ever wanted to tell satan to bite the dust in your life? Carman did with his song called "Satan, Bite The Dust!" Check the music video out:

Posted on youtube by: stryperized

My Day in Court

2011-01-08T14:46:00.000-08:00

It was here....my day in court.

I thought I was ready, but I wasn't. I couldn't stop sweating and I was SO nervous. I had worked for law enforcement and been around the boys in blue since I was 14, but nothing could prepare me for this day.

The day I would be on the other side and the law would be staring me down. What would my family, friends and co-workers all think of me? I had let so many people down with my actions.

What was my offense(s), you ask?

I was being charged with Theft by taking (16-8-2), slander, murder (16-5-1) and a whole lot more.

Since I couldn't afford a lawyer - I had to represent myself. I didn't want a public defender, which I know was just my pride getting in the way.

Having had a speech class in college I thought this would be a breeze, but boy was I wrong. The judge was so intimidating. I was actually rendered speechless as the judge threw the book at me, so-to-speak.

By the time I realized what was happening - I had been sentenced to death. I'll admit that I deserved it, but I had been hoping for a lesser sentence.

I fought back the tears as long as I could, but when I realized this was it - there was no going back, I just started crying.

The sound of the metal door slamming as the guards began to approach to cuff me - made me jump. I would no longer hear the birds outside or even cars going by - only the sound of doors squeaking open and slamming shut. I cried some more and began to look for an exit that I might be able to run to. But there was no escaping.

The guards weren't that nice either. When I didn't respond as quickly to their demands as they wanted they grabbed my arms and pulled them behind me. Throwing the cuffs on me the way they did pinched my skin to where it bled.

"Did he say it would be lethal injection or electrocution?" I asked the guards, but they didn't respond.

Instead, they just gave me a shove to begin walking. "Wait!" someone shouted to the guards from out of the commotion over at the judges bench.

The man approached the guards and began to whisper something to them and point back at the judges area. I glanced that way to try and figure out what was going on.

I noticed what looked like a homeless man in the mix. He had a gentle face and a kind, loving manner about him. The prosecutor kept looking at him and then back at me while shaking his head. Finally, I heard the judge ask the man, "Are you sure you want to do this?" "Yes," the man replied.

"You realize what the punishment is for those offenses? the judge asked" "Yes sir, I do" he replied again. "Well, okay if there is no changing your mind, but I must add that this is the craziest thing I have ever heard of anyone doing" the judge said.

The next thing I knew, the guards took off my cuffs - cuffed the man and began to lead him away. "Wait a minute I yelled!" "He didn't commit those crimes - I did." "There must be some confusion."

The man glanced back at me before they entered the jail and said, "This is for you."

Dump founded, touched, bewildered I sat down in the courtroom. As did many others I could hear talking about what just happened. News reporters quickly ran up to me to ask how I was feeling about the man named Jesus taking my place - being put to death for my crimes - something that has never been done before and most likely wouldn't be done again.

But did you know that it was done for you and not just me? I'm completely serious.

(This is a nonfiction and fiction story that I just told you). Let me break it down for which is which.

Truth

Jesus did die for your sins and my sins - giving us a second chance and an ability to choose Him - to choose salvation and eternal life if we want it. John 3:16, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believed in Him would not perish, but have everlasting life" (King James Version).
According to God's law, anyone who has been angry without cause towards another has committed murder in their heart and anyone who has ever lusted for someone has committed adultery in their heart. Murder / Hate = "Ye have heard it said, Thou shalt not kill and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment. But I say unto you, that Whosoever is angry with his brother without cause shall be in danger of the judgment" (Matthew chapter 5: 21-22) King James Version. Adultery / Lust = "Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew chapter 5: verse 27-28) King James Version.

Part Fiction

I haven't been to court, but the truth of the matter is that one day I will stand in front of God and He will judge me. Thankfully, I have received Him into my heart and so my sins are forgiven by the blood of Jesus.

Romans 3:23, "For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God" (King James Version).

Click here to find out h ow to become saved.

God In America?

2011-01-08T09:55:00.000-08:00

Song by Carman
Posted on Youtube by: RaymondC45

I'm Addicted

2011-01-08T08:23:00.000-08:00

We are all addicted to something. What's your addictions?

Shopping, gambling, sweet tea, coffee, gossiping, drugs, alcohol, smoking, lying, cell phone, chocolate???

I've heard that when you quit one addiction - you replace it with another.

Well, I used to be addicted to sweet tea. It was all I ever drank...everyday...all day. I recently kicked the habit and have replaced that addiction with water.

Yes, there are days when I miss it and feel I could function better if I had just a little. But then I remind myself of the really bad headaches and everything else that I experienced when going through withdrawals. Which I don't want to go through again and for now that is working.

I am A2J too!

Check out the following music video by Carman on A2J.

Posted on Youtube by: rfaubel

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The Armor of God

2010-12-30T09:00:00.000-08:00

Do you put on the Armor of God daily? I do. I wouldn't make it without it.

"We are at war, and it is a fight for our lives - not our physical lives, but our spiritual lives. The only way for us to survive this conflict is to prepare for the fight" (Dr. Charles Stanley).

The book of Ephesians chapter 6 verse 11 tells us, "Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand."
Next the scripture goes on to tell us about each piece of God's armor.

In the October magazine issue of "In Touch" (produced by Dr. Charles Stanley - http://www.intouch.org/),
Dr. Charles Stanley mentions praying on God's armor every morning.

Here is how Dr. Charles Stanley prays on God's armor ever morning:

"Lord, I choose to put on the helmet of salvation today in order to protect my mind. I want to think only Your thoughts, Lord. I want to thank You that when satan sends one of his thoughts my way, this helmet of salvation will protect my thinking."
"Lord, I choose to put on the breastplate of righteousness to guard my emotions. I want to feel only what You feel. Don't let me react out of my emotions. Rather, let me respond based on the truth I know in my mind."
"Lord, I choose to fasten on truth (the belt of truth) so I can stay centered on Your Word. I want to live in the truth, walk in the truth, and testify to the truth."
"Lord, I choose to put on the sandals of peace. Wherever I go today, I want to be a peacemaker. I want my footprints to be evidence of the tranquility I carry in the Holy Spirit."
"Lord, I choose to take up the shield of faith. I want to thank You that, no matter how many fiery arrows the Enemy hurls at me today, no matter how many trials or temptations may come, I can stand safely behind the massive protection of faith."
"Lord, I choose to lift high the sword of the Spirit, Your holy Word. Father, thank You for this spiritual weapon that cuts so deeply to bring about conviction and repentance."

When it gets hard...and it will definitely get tough...just remember:

(images are from google.com)

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Forgive and Forget Friday!

2010-12-30T07:01:00.000-08:00

Forgive and Be Forgiven!

"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: but if you forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matthew 6:14-15).

"Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him?" Guessing, he asked "seven times?" (Matthew 18:21).

Like Peter - it gets old when someone continues to do or say something that you've asked them not to, or even if they just happen to be the one you keep having problems with. Haven't you ever been ready to wash your hands of someone?

So like any of us, Peter wanted to know if there was a limit to how many times he should forgive the person. Seven times sounds like a lot especially if your the person who keeps having to deal with the person in the wrong. So it sounded resonible; however,

"Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven" (Matthew 18:22).

Jesus wasn't telling Peter to do something he wasn't also willing to do for us - and actually does for us. In fact, Jesus takes it a step further and "As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us" (Psalm 103:12).

He doesn't just forgive us our sins when we repent - He also forgets it! Isn't that amazing!

How I wish I could do that. When someone hurts me and I forgive them - it is hard to then forget what they've done. That is what Jesus is saying when he says, "as far as the east is from the west", so far have I removed your sins.

Forgive and Forget!

I am going to strive to not just forgive, but also forget. How about you?

"In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace" (Ephesians 1:7)

Casting Crowns was able to put into a song the verse "As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us" (Psalm 103:12). They call it "East to West."

Posted on Youtube by: jkstar09

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Having A Bad Day?

2010-12-29T18:21:00.000-08:00

This two shall pass...

"Remembering my affliction and my misery...This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope: It is of the Lord's mercies that we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; great is thy faithfulness...therefore will I hope in Him" (Lamentations 3:19-24).

My mother always told me - and we know how right mothers are...especially mine - that our emotions come and go. While you may feel one way today about a particular topic, you will most likely feel another way tomorrow even if it is just a slight difference.

However, if your feelings don't change on the topic at hand - In the words of a famous woman "Tomorrow is another day!" (Scarlett O'Hara in the movie Gone With the Wind).

"Hold On" by Toby Mac

Posted on Youtube by: cs10sami

"Strength in my weakness - you are everything in my time of need" by Kutless:

Posted on Youtube by: ChurchofGodGuy

Bad Day Due to an Argument?

"Do not let the sun go down on your anger" (Ephesians 4:26). In other words, make amends that day before you go to bed. For we do not have the promise of tomorrow or even a second from now. In regards to life and death - no argument is worth taking to the grave, or having regrets over.

Someone wise once told me, "Be wrong to be right. It takes a real mature man or woman - even if s/he isn't in the wrong - to be the first one to apologize and ask forgiveness of the other individual(s)."

Yes, it is important that an apologize is offered and forgiveness is asked even if you were not the one in the wrong initially. You're at least apologizing for your part in the argument and however your behavior was and for the hurtful words you may have spoken. "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but harsh words stir up anger" (Proverbs 15:1).

And, know this upfront - the other person(s) may not be mature (or grown up) enough to recipicate in kind, or even accept your apology, but that's their loss and is between them and God.

"Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" (James 1:19)

Forgive and Be Forgiven!

"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: but if you forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matthew 6:14-15).

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Ephesians 5 kind of man, husband and father.

2010-12-28T07:00:00.000-08:00

"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it" (Ephesians 5:25).

A man who loves me enough to die for me as Christ died for us. To lay down his own life - in many ways dying to self. Yes, I am talking about physically being willing to die for me. But also being willing to die to his own self wants and desires, which could be anything. Placing them second to me. Loving me even when I don't deserve it.

* A marriage is a two-way street; however, unlike the world which says we should give 50/50. A God centered marriage is one that gives 100 percent and more focusing on Christ and never focusing on how much the other person is giving. With the other person in Christ too then he/she will also be giving 100 percent and more.

"So ought men to love their own wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church" (Ephesians 5:28-29).

A man who doesn't abuse, misuse, or neglect me, but loves and cares for me as he would himself. Have you ever seen a man beat himself? How about neglect himself? When a man wants to impress someone - he cleans up, dresses nicely, makes sure every hair is in place and that he smells good. That takes time and attention, so should he give time and attention to his wife.

"When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies, but after he wins her heart and marries her he often stops learning about her.

If the amount he studied her before marriage was equal to a highschool degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gains a college degree, a master's degree and ultimately a doctoriate degree. It is a life long journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers" (Fireproof - the movie...see Fireproof 2008 5 of 12 on Youtube posted by RhayneNer).

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Are You Giving Yourself Away?

2010-12-27T08:00:00.000-08:00

Are you giving yourself away to something? Is your mind wondering to places, or on people it shouldn't?

What consumes your thoughts, your time, your money? What places have you visited lately?

Was your conscious pricked when you started down this path? Did you feel uneasy?

Did you hear that still small voice of a faithful friend saying, "this is wrong, turn back now before it's too late...don't do it"...

Do you still hear that voice? It's not too late! Even if you've ignored the voice till you can no longer hear its wise counsel. It is never too late, so start saying 'no' now. Sometimes it helps to say "NO" out loud. First, you have to truly want to stop. Second, if you truly want to stop then ask God to help you and He will. I can testify to His helping me!

When we sin - our sin doesn't just effect us. It effects those around us that we love as well...like our children, spouse, parents, siblings, friends, etc.

This song and video by Casting Crowns called "Slow Fade" says it best. For it is truly "a slow fade when we give ourselves away" to anything.

Posted on Youtube by: CastingCrownsVEVO

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A Proverbs 31 woman, wife and mother

2010-12-26T17:51:00.000-08:00

What is a Proverbs 31 woman? Glad you asked!

"Who can find a virtuous woman (wife of valour)? for her price (worth) is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil (lack of gain).

She will do her husband good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens (maidservants).

She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit (earnings) of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles (sashes) unto the merchant.

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates" (Proverbs chapter 31).

To put it simply: she is wise, honest, loving, frugal, business smart, a hard worker, creative, talented, etc.

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Mercy & Grace

2010-12-26T15:34:00.000-08:00

Do you know what the difference is between mercy and grace?

Mercy is when you've done something bad and should receive punishment, but instead you are shown mercy - no punishment to a lesser form of punishment

Like the speeding ticket you should have received, but the cop gave you a warning instead.
The spanking you should have received from your parent(s) when you lied, but instead they grounded you or sent you to your room.
Death for your sins, but Jesus paid your price by dying for you so that you would have the ability to choose eternal life. "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish but have everlasting life" (John 3:16).

Grace is when you've done nothing in particular to deserve something good, but you receive something good anyway -

Someone buys you a meal or gives you water to drink
As a child, your parent didn't make you clean your room one particular day
"For God sent not His Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through Him might be saved." "But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon Him; and with his stripes we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him (Jesus) the iniquity of us all" (John 3:17 and Isaiah 53:5-6).

Grace Like Rain by Todd Agnew (the poster of this video on youtube got the singer wrong)

Posted on Youtube by: Snickers0295

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Hopeless? Weary? Broken Hearted?

2010-12-26T07:30:00.000-08:00

"There's hope for the helpless, rest for the weary, and love for the broken heart. There is grace and forgiveness - mercy and healing that will meet you where ever you are" (Mac Powell, Third Day)

Mac Powell is my favorite singer and Third Day is his band - also my favorite.

This song is for everyone...

Posted on Youtube by: ThirdDayVEVO

Third Day is also alumni of Kennesaw State University! :-)

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Are You A Little Man?

2010-12-26T06:00:00.000-08:00

Are you a little man? O.C. Supertones sets us straight on being a little man.

Posted on youtube by: EMI

Words to song:
"Keep both my eyes transfixed on the prize
A high-rise to the blue skies my piece of the pie
There's a hole in my heart that I know how to fill
That's to light my cigarettes with a hundred dollar bills
It's all about cash flow the California dream
To make the grade you gotta make the green
My friend I'm the champion I've no time for losers
Never ask for nothin 'cause beggars can't be choosers

Lookin' out for number one's a full time occupation
I'll give to me myself and I my own salvation
Some people try to tell me God can save me from my sin
But God can take a number and I'll pencil Him in
Busy oh so busy I got no time to search
My Sunday's are all booked I've got no time for church
That's for those poor souls, dry as a stone
God bless this child 'cause this child's got His own.

Oh, let my pride fall down I'm a little man
Oh, let my pride fall down I'm a little man

He who gets the most toys and dies is the winner
I'm livin' the high life with lobster tail dinners
My lexus, my yacht, my gold chains and rings
These are a few of my favorite things
But most of all I keep my billfold the closest to my heart
House decorated with million dollar works of art
Roll with the Bigwigs they think I'm the man
But then I stop and look and think about how big I really am

Oh, let my pride fall down I'm a little man
Oh, let my pride fall down I'm a little man

Mammon is an unforgiving god, I cast him away
I live my life to God, not to get paid
Money can't save your soul, don't think I can
I look to God and I feel like a little man"

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History of Christmas

2010-12-25T11:26:00.000-08:00

The Place:
"And it came to pass in those days, that there went out a decree from Caesar Augustus, that all the world should be taxed (registered). And this taxing (registration) was first made when Cyrenius was governor of Syria. And all went to be taxed, every one into his own city. And Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judaea,unto the city of David, which is called Bethlehem; because he (Joseph) was of the house (family) and lineage of David. To be taxed with Mary his espoused (betrothed) wife, being great with child" (Luke 2:1-5).

The Background:

"Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise (as follows): When as his mother Mary was espoused (betrothed) to Joseph, before they came together (consummated the marriage), she was found to be with child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph her husband, being a just man (upright), and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily (secretly).

But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary as thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost. And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save His people from their sins.

Now all this was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying, Behold, A Virgin Shall Be With Child, And Shall Bring Forth A Son, And They Shall Call His Name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us" (Matthew 1:18-23).

The Event of a Lifetime:

"And so it was, that, while they were there, the days were accomplished that she should be delivered (give birth). And she brought forth her first-born son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manager (a feed through for animals); because there was no room for them in the inn.

And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them (stood before them), and the glory of the Lord shone round about them and they were sore (greatly) afraid. And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.

The Message:

For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord. And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes (cloths), lying in a manager. And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying, Glory to God, in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.

And it came to pass, as the angels were gone away from them into heaven, the shepherds said one to another, Let us now go even unto Bethlehem, and see this thing which is come to pass, which the Lord hath made known unto us. And they came with haste, and found Mary, and Joseph, and the babe lying in a manager. And when they had seen it, they made known abroad the saying which was told them concerning this child.

And all they that heard it wondered (marvelled) at those things which were told them by the shepherds. But Mary kept all these things, and pondered them in her heart. And the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things that they had heard and seen, as it was told unto them" (Luke 2:6-20).

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How Do You Save A World?

2010-12-25T08:00:00.000-08:00

"A Strange Way to Save the World"

Click on the link above - really makes you think.

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Merry Christmas!

2010-12-24T19:42:00.000-08:00

I hope this video touches your heart as it has mine - Merry Christmas!

Posted on Youtube by: sdg131516

Lyrics to "Here With Us":

"It's still a mystery to me

That the hands of God could be so small,

How tiny fingers reaching in the night

Were the very hands that measured the sky

Chorus:

Hallelujah, Hallelujah

Heaven's love reaching down to save the world

Hallelujah, Hallelujah

Son of God, Servant King

You're here with us

It's still a mystery to me, oh,

How His infant eyes have seen the dawn of time

How His ears have heard an angel's symphony,

But still Mary had to rock her Savior to sleep

Chorus:

Hallelujah, Hallelujah

Heaven's love reaching down to save the world

Hallelujah, Hallelujah

Son of God, Servant King

You're here with us

Jesus the Christ, born in Bethlehem

A baby born to save, to save the souls of man

Chorus:

Hallelujah, Hallelujah

Heaven's love reaching down to save the world

Hallelujah, Hallelujah

Son of God, Servant King

You're here with us

Christmas = Giving?

2010-12-24T12:00:00.000-08:00

Christmas is all about giving. "Christmas started out with 1 free gift - Jesus"

"Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights" James chapter 1: verse 17.

This first Christmas present was:

"a gift of love - John 3:16, "For God so loved the world..."
"a gift of peace - with the Father (God)"
"a gift of eternal life - the gift Jesus gave by dying on the cross for us" John 3:16, "that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life."
"a gift of hope - we can be saved" 1 Timothy 1:15, "This is a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptation, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners."

God's gift to us - His son Jesus - is a gift that won't wear out, tear up, break down, rust up, die, leave, etc.

Now that's a perfect gift that keeps on giving!
Quoted information given by Pastor Joel - my pastor - on Sunday, December 19th.

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I Love You God - "No Matter What!"

2010-12-22T14:31:00.000-08:00

Posted on Youtube by: TGWTGFan

If God Be For Us, Who Can Be Against Us?

2010-12-21T18:31:00.000-08:00

"If God be for us, who can be against us?" Romans 8:31

Posted on youtube by: Tachycinetabicolor

He Is My Everything!

2010-12-12T17:18:00.000-08:00

Have you ever seen the "Everything" skit?
It is definitely a must see! The youth at my church, performed this skit for us one Sunday night and it was amazing. I have placed a video of their performance here below.

This skit, shows the many temptations and distractions that satan will put in a persons path in order to try and keep them from ever having a relationship with Jesus Christ, or growing spiritually.

Since the video is unfortunately so small, there are some things you may not be able to make out very well. I have listed some background information below:

1.) The dark shirt, worn by the main girl, represents us in our unsaved state.

"For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord." (Romans 6:23), "But God demonstrates His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)

2.) The temptations and distractions that come along in this skit are in the following order:

a.) fickle relationships (for the Christians, it would also be unequally yoked relationships)
b.) money
c.) alcohol
d.) appearances (looks, dress, throwing up in order to remain skinny, etc.)
e.) drugs
f.) cutting or suicide

Are Your Prayers Being Answered?

2010-12-12T08:00:00.000-08:00

Is God answering your prayers? Is He answering them in the way you want Him to?

Find out why or why not here: Praying Effectively

My Plea To God

2010-12-11T09:44:00.000-08:00

Brandon Heath's song: "Give Me Your Eyes" completely sums up my prayerful plea to God right now.

I'm finding it very hard to do as Paul states in 1 Corinthians chapter 9: verse 22, "Be all things to all people." When you haven't walked down the same path as someone else - you can't relate.

When you can't relate - you can't empathize. Although, I can't just walk down that very path in order to be able to empathize and relate. I do want to still be able to be used by God in comforting and ministering to all.

It's a fine line and so far I've found it is best to not talk - just listen.

"Lord, give me your eyes so I can see everything that I keep missing; give me your love for humanity; give me your arms for the broken hearted - the ones that are far beyond my reach; give me your heart for the ones forgotten..."

Posted on YouTube by: BrandonHeathVEVO

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Sinless?

2010-12-10T11:02:00.000-08:00

"The greatest single cause of atheism in the world today is Christians who acknowledge Jesus with their lips - Then walk out the door and deny Him by their lifestyle. That is what an unbelieving world simply finds unbelievable" (Toby Mac, DcTalk Music Group / song: What if I stumble?).

That statement is so true. And, like a church sign I saw once that read: "Christians are not sinless they just try to sin less," we are suppose to keep in mind that our actions and words should mimic that of Christ or else we are sending mixed messages. And, who wouldn't be confused!

But We Are Not Perfect!

Only Jesus is perfect - He had to be in order to die for my sins and your sins to satisfy God's judgment and give the ability for Salvation.

I sin everyday - so do you. Just because we are saved by Grace and receive God's forgiveness each time we repent from our sins, doesn't mean we can take advantage of His grace and mercy by sinning however and whenever we want - while banking on the fact that He will forgive us - for He knows our hearts inside and out. There's no fooling Him. "For the Lord searches all hearts and understands every plan and thought" (1 Chronicles 28:9).

"For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also" (Matthew 6:21).

DcTalk's "What if I stumble?" posted on YouTube by: T1R9A6C3Y

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Encouraging Words For A Boss

2010-12-04T20:49:00.000-08:00

Here are some encouraging words to give your boss during different situations:

"You have been a great influence in my life" (by: Ben Spicer)
"Thanks for being the kind of person who challenges me to grow in my walk with God" (by: Ben Spicer)
"As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another" (Proverbs chapter 27: verse 17 NIV)
"You are such a demonstration of God's love to me and an inspiration for my spiritual journey" (by: Ben Spicer)
"As water reflects a face, so a man's heart reflects the man"
(Proverbs chapter 27: verse 19) NIV
Your may be an ordinary boss, but you have extraordinary talents
Thank you for not being a macro manager
Thank you for not being a micro manager
Thank you for being flexible with _________
No one could ever truly fill your shoes

A Helping Hand

2010-11-28T18:27:00.000-08:00

I'm about to mention a few situations and I am only doing so as a way to encourage fellow brothers and sisters in Christ...to not second guess God when He speaks to you.

DON'T THINK - ACT

A man and his sons frequented on a regular basis, a local fast food restaurant in their town for breakfast on certain mornings. In doing so, they became acquainted with those who worked at the restaurant. And soon were known by the workers as "they regulars." One young lady in particular, took note of their comings and what they ordered. Eventually she had their routine down so well that she started having their breakfast ready and waiting on them as they walked through the door. She really went above and beyond on her job.

During one of their visits, God pricked the heart of the man to give a tip to the young lady. And, he thought to himself "we give tips to waiters and waitresses, but not really to fast food workers...and they work just as hard."

So, he dug out his wallet and thumbing through his bills - he grabbed a twenty. Now, a twenty would definitely had been more than a 10% tip. However, the dialog between him and God went something like this:
$20.00 "Ok, God that is a very nice tip.
God - "more"
More? Okay, I'll grab another twenty.
God - More.
Well, $60.00 ought to do it?....
God - I've blessed you with an abundance financially and all you can think of sharing from it is $60.00...more."

The final amount was $100.00. God has a reason for everything and He knew that $100.00 was the amount the young lady needed.

The man asked the young lady if she could have tips and when she said yes, he told her that God had told him to give her this & then handed her the hundred dollars. She began to cry and explained that it was the exact amount she needed to be able to purchase tires for her vehicle.

The next time he and his sons were in there, the young lady approached to tell him how his willingness to give moved her. She said, as she was driving home that night after receiving his gift - she arrived home to find her neighbors home burnt to the ground. They had had a house fire and lost everything. Not missing a beat, she gave the $100.00 to that family saying that she realized they needed it more than she did.

The man said, "I gave out of my abundance - she gave out of her need."

This true story was aired on WMBW Moody Radio
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Now, I wasn't as quick on the drawl as the man mentioned above. One very cold and windy day, I was driving through the Chick-Fil-A drive thru and upon reaching the window I still had my gloves on. The lady at the window saw my gloves and said, "Boy, what I wouldn't give to have your gloves right now."

Well, if that wasn't a message from above! As she was collecting my change and food I began to take off my gloves. But first I had to go and open my big mouth when she returned to the window, I asked "You don't have any gloves?" She said "no" - but then added - "however, I don't think I could work the window wearing both. I mean I could probably wear one, but it would be too hard to wear two."

That was it....I hesitated and drove on. She hadn't noticed that I had taken off my gloves. As I reached the red light, I could have kicked myself. I should have given her the gloves and I new deep down that God had told me two, but I had second guessed Him. I started to turn around and go back knowing that was my one opportunity to help her in a way that she obviously needed. But I didn't. I asked God to forgive me for second guessing Him. And, for that day forward I have tried to listen very carefully to Him and not second guess Him.

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Singer, Chris Sligh, had a similar experience as mine. I heard him on J103 today as he talked about why he wrote the song "Only You Can Save."

He was at a red light and there was a homeless man on the corner. Chris realized that he didn't have any money on him - only his credit card. He thought about giving the man his credit card and then thought...."I'll most likely never see it again."

He SECOND GUESSED

The light turned green and so he drove on. Realizing that he had made a mistake - he turned around and due to the heavy traffic it took him roughly 30 min. to reach that same spot again, but the man was gone.

On his way back home he used his phone (and cautioned people not do use their phone like him when driving) to write the words to the following song:

Posted on YouTube by: Letmein124

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A Father's Plea & Thankful Heart

2010-11-28T16:12:00.000-08:00

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Video and message provided by Nick Vujicic's website http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org/mediaroom/memory-robert-bob-finck

God blessed Robert "Bob" Finck with being able to see his son come to know Christ as his Savior before calling Robert home. Not long after recording this thank you video, Robert left to go to the mission field in Africa.

"On August 9th, Bob was feeling very ill and needed some immediate medical attention. Bob and two other missionaries were driving to the hospital when the car suddenly hit a pothole and flipped off the road. Tragically, Bob was thrown from the car and killed instantly. He was the only person that did not survive" (Life Without Limbs).

"After Bob’s death, a close friend of his shared something Bob once said, “…Is there no better place to die than serving the Lord on a mission trip?” What a great example of courageous faith!" (Life Without Limbs).

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KORN's Brian Welch Details Drugs, Christ Relation

2010-11-25T19:38:00.000-08:00

KORN was Brian's world, and his wife and daughter were second. But not anymore. AND

Stephen Baldwin, Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs, Tony Dungy, Mike Huckabee, Colt McCoy, Baron Batch are all second.

Click here to see others who are also second @ http://www.iamsecond.com/

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I'm Thankful For...

2010-11-24T18:26:00.000-08:00

10 things I'm thankful for list...

My family, friends and I used to create a list of the things we were thankful for and then during our Thanksgiving meal share them with everyone. It was a wonderful time of reflecting back on good memories; of wonderful and/or funny times with loved ones now gone; events in our life when we felt we weren't going to make it, but did; qualities we admired of each other and the list goes on.

I decided that this year, I would share my list with all of you. Each list can of course be as long or short as you want it.

I'll try to just list the 10 things I'm thankful for - I can get carried away with my list sometimes:

1.) My Heavenly Father

2.) The salvation of two loved ones

3.) My salvation

4.) God's Holy Word - The Bible (and the ability to read it)....okay I know that was two things ;-)

5.) My Mother

6.) My new job!

7.) Each of my co-workers: they are great, have a wonderful sense of humor and make me feel right at home

8.) My supervisor - best yet

9.) All the things I tend to take for granted: ability to see, hear, talk, smell, touch, feel, drive, walk...

10.) My health - you know the song that says "you don't know what you've got till it's gone" - so true.

So what's on your list?

Happy Thanksgiving!

2010-11-24T17:39:00.000-08:00

I hope and pray you all have a safe and wonderful Thanksgiving!

There are always lots of accidents - in the kitchen and on the roads during the Holidays, so please be careful.

God Bless!

Ck

True Love - It's Really Out There

2010-11-21T13:55:00.000-08:00

"I Love You!" Oh, to hear those words from someone who truly means it. Someone who knows and shows that love is a verb - an action, NOT a feeling or lustful desire.

Loving unconditionally, making sacrifices till it hurts, doing without so that you can have, giving up everything including his/her life for you...

That's LOVE

As you may recall from my last post, we talked about the true life and marriage of Hosea. He showed true love to his wife even though she continued to prostitute herself during their marriage. He also loved and cared for their children even though only one was really his. The other two were from men whom she'd been with during their marriage.

I cannot imagine what that must have been like for him. The feelings he must have felt: betrayed, hurt, used, abused, anger, etc. It would be hard to trust again after that - I would imagine.

But Hosea goes on to give his wife an even greater sacrifice that is an example to all of us what true love really is. His action is completely amazing and shows unconditional love.

The Background:

After several years of marriage and all the while Hosea's wife playing the harlot...she ends up leaving him and the children behind to prostitute herself on a full-time basis. Hosea continues to preach God's word (as he is a preacher - if I failed to mention that earlier) and minister to others, while also taking care of the three children as his own (one really his & two not).

TRUE LOVE:

Time goes on and then one day while Hosea is in town shopping for groceries, he sees her. He almost didn't recognize her. All the years of prostituting had taken a tole on her looks. She no longer was the young, strong, happy, clean, beautiful bride he once new.

Now she was weak, skin and bones, frail, older looking, battered, scared and dirty. But he recognized her none the less. Guess where she was...

She among others in her situation were being paraded - naked - in front of a crowd of their peers (some of whom she most likely used to hang out with as she worked the streets). Why, you ask?

She was currently so deep in debt for one reason or another that she, along with others in her same predicament, were being auctioned off as a slave in order to pay off all there debts. (Note, this was the custom back then when you were in debt and couldn't pay - similar to debtors prison).

What do you think Hosea did? If someone you loved...who had also betrayed you like she did him and was now about to be sold for pennies to people who would just use and abuse her...what would you do?

As he pondered what to do. He most likely heard men here and there yelling out what they'd pay for her and how they were going to use her. So he made his decision.

He paid the price for her. He gave them not only all the money he had on himself right then, but he included the items he had just purchased in town that day in order to buy her from the hands of slavery.

And, that's not all. He covered her nakedness and took her back home. Of course, she was embarrassed, humiliated and ashamed of her sins. She probably wondered if he was angry enough with her to kill her - why else would he have done what he just did?, she might have thought.

But she didn't have to worry about that; because, he loved her with real love. Not love based on what she could do for him, but love that keeps on giving no matter what. Of course, he wasn't still infatuated with her - after all he was hurting from how she had treated him, but unconditional love doesn't stop loving. Eventually - given enough time for his heart to heal his heart might follow his actions of love towards her, but it would take time.

Healing takes time.

But can you imagine how she must have felt when she realized that he paid her debts for her and was bringing her back home as his wife to continue to love unconditionally??? Wow!

* This is a true story about Hosea's life and family. God told Him to marry a prostitute who would eventually continue prostituting herself and eventually leave Hosea to raise the kids alone. He then told Hosea after time passed, to go look for her and bring her back home. His (Hosea's) life was an example by God to the Israelites (way back then), but the example still applies even to us today with how we treat God with our adultery (which takes on many forms). And, how God continues to love them and us unconditionally by the fact that he paid the ultimate price for our sins - death - so that we would have the option of life eternal.

Jesus went through the whole process for us... he was beaten till his organs shown from his back, hands and feet nailed to a cross made of wood, thorns plunged into his skull till he bled, and he was stabbed in the side - all for You! He loves you that much! He went willing for you and didn't put up a fight. You are truly loved unconditionally. If you do not know Christ as your savior - please accept Him into your life right now. No one loves you more than Him.

If you believe in your heart that He loves you, died for you, and is alive today then you are saved. And, all of heaven rejoices with you in your salvation...as do I. :-)

You can read more about Hosea in the Bible. His book is between the book of Daniel and Joel.

What's Your Family Like?

2010-11-20T17:41:00.000-08:00

What words would you use to describe your family?

Loving, ruthless, insane, happy, miserable, calm, chaotic, together, separate....

Let's take a look at Hosea's family and see what words you think would describe them.

Hosea & Wife:
Hosea is a preacher through and through, but his wife, Gomer, is a prostitute. He knew that about her before he married her. And, yes even though her name sounds like a male name - she is a female. I'll tell ya more about her name in a minute.

The Children:
Of their three children (two boys and one girl) - only the first born son is actually Hosea's. See his wife continued to play the harlot even after marriage, so her second and third child each belonged to different men.

However, in spite of his wife's adultery - Hosea continued to not only stay married to Gomer, but to love her, love the children and take care of them all. BUT, everything about Hosea and his family was out in the open for all to know, nothing was hidden from the public. They were an example for all to see. Can you imagine?

Names:

Have you ever heard someones name and thought, "why did his or her parents name him/her that?" Or, "how did they come up with that name?"

Well, that's exactly what you would wonder with Hosea's kids. Okay, so we know that the first born child was a son and was fathered by Hosea. Here is what Hosea named him: Jezreel, which means "God will scatter" (also known as "a prediction of judgment" upon the people of Jehu). Poor kid.

Parents usually get a little better at choosing names the more practice they have at it, but not Hosea...his gets worse.

The second child was a girl and we have no idea who her father was. But Hosea, being a man of God, showing mercy and staying true to God's word kept her as his own. He named her: Loruhamah, which means "No Mercy".

Are you ready for the third child's name? His name was: Loammi, meaning "You are not mine".

Whoa! How'd you like to live in that family and have one of those names?? Makes me very appreciative of my family and my name.

Now, back to Gomer's name. Her name stands for complete, done, finished. Whether that was her true name, a new name given to her by Hosea, or her job name - we don't know.

But here's what we do know:

Hosea was a preacher whom God told to marry a prostitute and have children by her (his own children & children of whoredom). God also told him what to name each child. Why?

Hosea's family was to be an example to the house of Israel. Who at that time (many years ago) was acting just like Gomer to Hosea, but towards God. However, God continued to show them mercy, but was warning them of a time of judgment for their behavior...especially if they did not turn from their sinful ways - hence the first sons name "Jezreel" (meaning prediction of judgment).

That had to be one hard command from God to follow through for Hosea. With God's help anything is possible, but I don't know how I would have felt being asked by God to walk down that road. So, the next time your wondering why you have the family you do....or complaining about God telling you to go to the mission field to a place you might not want to go, etc.....just think about what He could be asking you to do.

To read more about Hosea - you can find his life story in the Bible between the book of Daniel and Joel. This post was detailing the first chapter of Hosea's life.

Please Don't Say That It's Over

2010-11-19T21:07:00.000-08:00

With the anniversary date of a friends suicide coming around the corner this month...I am reminded of so many who are hurting right now. People feeling as though they are not loved, or have a hope for the future.

Is that you right now?

When your down and don't have the strength to rise again or feel that all hope is gone - know that there is hope and someone who loves and cares for you more than anyone else could. And, He is waiting for you to allow Him to carry you through this storm. All you have to do is ask.

Will you let Him? You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Whether it is a broken heart you have from a relationship that has ended, a used and abused soul, weight/image despair, drug/alcohol addiction, pressure from having a child out of wedlock, broken home life, or no home at all and the list goes on... HE LOVES YOU and wants to SET YOU FREE from the chains the world has bound you with.

You are precious in God's eyes, so much so that He gave His only son to die in your place for your sins. "For one will scarcely die for a righteous person - though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die - but God shows His love for US (me and you) in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5: 7-8 esv).

My prayer for you that I prayed while writing this post..."May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope" (Romans 15:13 esv).

Have you ever heard the phrase, "There's a song for everything"? Well, there is and there's also a song for everyone....the following songs posted on You Tube say it better than I can:

Mandisa: Feeling our void with alcohol, drugs, sex, or...

"Posted by paikimchung on Youtube"

DcTalk: For the restless of hearts: "There is love, truth, hope for the hopeless, peace and forgiveness and life in the Red Letters"

"Posted by TheBatSays on Youtube"

Helen Baylor: was addicted to drugs and alcohol and was dying from a drug overdose when..."If it had not been for..."

"Posted by Demetriius3000 on Youtube"

Mandisa: American Idol contestant had an eating disorder and issue with her weight then came along "My Deliverer"

"Posted by CompuPawn on Youtube"

Toby Mac: speaks to all young teenage mothers out of wedlock - dealing with all the pressures of the world in "Irene"

"Posted via EMI on Youtube"

Kerrie Roberts: Knows about heartache and learning to trust God, "No Matter What"

"Posted by TGWTGFan on Youtube"

Toby Mac reminds us that God is for us in "I'm For You!"

"Posted by Weeble167 on Youtube"

Toby Mac "Made to Love"

"Posted by: Made4TrueLove on Youtube"

DcTalk: "You Consume Me"

"Posted via EMI on Youtube"

Adversity - Brings You Down or Builds You Up?

2010-11-18T20:04:00.000-08:00

Have you had any adversity in your life lately? How did you let if effect you...did you get angry and let out your frustration, or keep to yourself - holding your feelings inside?

I've had some recent adversity in my life, that I had started to let it drag me down into the depths of despair. Yep, I had started out by keeping my feelings to myself, which wasn't good for me or the other person - whom we'll call John for privacy reasons.

I prayed about it over-and-over again and thought I knew what to do, which was follow the same advice I had received recently about forgiveness. You can click here for that information "Forgiveness Friday".

However, I must have been missing something; because, things weren't going like I thought they would. In fact, I was continuing to deal with the same adversity from John - not once, not twice, but at least three times and the end was no where in sight.

I didn't think I could handle it anymore and was afraid I would lose it with him if he didn't stop purposely antagonizing me.

So, I turned to Dr. Charles Stanley. He speaks the truth in love and I was really needing to hear it. I went to his website "In Touch.org" and low and behold his current message on the homepage of his site was titled, "Adversity - Burden or Bridge?"

This was definitely the message for me! Pun intended...because the message really was directed at me...well and everyone else going through similar stuff.

While John was at fault for his purposeful mistreatment of me over-and-over again - I too was also at fault. Yeah, I know it shocked me too! God had been trying to tell me that I was in the wrong in the sense that I had an attitude problem about the whole situation.

Sure enough, Dr. Stanley confirmed what God had been trying to tell me in saying, that it is our attitude/outlook on the adversities in our life that either hinder us or help us. And, boy did I have a bad attitude.

While the offense I was facing was small in comparison to others one might be facing, I was still upset that it continued to happen and I couldn't stop it - nor was God. But please don't take that last statement to mean that I was upset with God; because, I wasn't. I know that everything passes through His hands before it reaches me, but I also know Romans 8:28. And, now I know 2 Corinthians chapter 12: verses 7-10.

Dr. Stanley's message referred to the apostle Paul's "thorn in the flesh" that God wouldn't remove despite his prayerful plea three times. Paul's outlook/attitude about his "thorn in the flesh" helped him not only have a closer walk with Christ - inspite of the fact that he knew God wasn't going to remove the thorn, but it also helped him overcome (rise above/learn from) not just that thorn, but others that arose as well.

"So to keep me from becoming conceited because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations, a thorn was given me in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to harass me, to keep me from becoming conceited. Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me. But He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong" (2 Corin. 12:7-10 ESV).

Wow, to be able to be "content" with such things as weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions and calamities. I realized I have a lot of work to do in my own life in achieving that outlook on adversities of any kind.

Here is what Dr. Stanley said Paul gathered from his "thorn in the flesh":

"He learned he could experience contentment in the midst of his adversity - that the adversity wasn't tearing him down, but instead building him up and allowing for a deeper relationship with God" He mentioned Philippians 4: 10-11
"He could experience God's supernatural strength in His weakness"
"Paul learned the source for all His needs = God"
"He could trust in the faithfulness of God" He mentioned 1 Corinthians 10:13
"God valued His service more than His desires and what that meant" He mentioned 2 Corinthians 12:7
"God was strengthening his (Paul's) message (about God) to his followers" Philippians 1:13-15
"He was learning to see everything as coming from God and so he knew he wasn't walking the hard road alone - God was right by His side" * reminds me of the 'Footprints in the sand' poem.
"He was learning the ways of God (vs. 10 of 2 Corinthians 12).
"Adversity made him a more effective comforter" - When you've went through something and someone else is just beginning down that road, you can better comfort them than someone who has never walked down that road nor is just starting down that path themselves.
"God had a specific purpose for the adversity" - (2 Corin. 12:7) We can't always see the big picture
"He could rejoice in the midst of his adversity" - to find peace in the midst of conflict...wow! Philippians 4:4

So, the next time adversity comes my way - I am going to try to look at it the way Paul did. This is a bridge in my life and not a burden. Will you take the challenge with me?

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Forgiveness Friday

2010-11-12T19:14:00.000-08:00

Have you been wronged by someone recently? How did you respond?

I was wronged by someone and I didn't react immediately. Instead I thought about it and prayed about it. I wanted to know what the Christian way was to handling the situation.

So while driving to my destination - to a location where the person who offended me was - I asked God to help me know how to best handle the situation in a Christ-like manner.

Sometimes God answers my prayers through His word - as I am reading it, I will stumble upon a passage of scripture that talks about the very topic I needed. Or a close friend, relative, or mentor will say something and I won't have even shared my prayer with them, so I know the message is from God. Lastly, and this just happens to be the way He spoke to me today - I turned on the radio to WMBW (88.9 FM).

I don't know who the speaker was, but he was talking about the passage of scripture in Luke chapter 17 verses 1 - 6, where Jesus was telling the apostles: "If your brother sins against you, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, 'I repent,' you must forgive him."

Well, as you can see that was my answer from God on how I should handle the situation. When wronged, I am to go to the person and explain what they did that offended me (as they may not realize they have done so) and then the usual response is for the person to repent from their actions - that unfortunately doesn't always happen either right away or at all in some cases. Then I am to forgive and forget.

So I tried it - it was a little hard because I wasn't sure how the person would react. At first, the reaction wasn't what I had expected....stubbornness and attitude. So I backed away - prayed some more, asking this time for the right words to use and then returned to talk to the individual one last time. This time, a different response - a better one and our friendship is better for our communication.

Even if it hadn't ended the way it did, I still did what was called of me as a Christian and as a person and I would have went home knowing I tried.

"Do not let the sun go down on your anger" (Ephesians 4:26).

Halloween - October 31 - Do You Know Where the Sex Offenders Live?

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I don't celebrate Halloween for faith reasons, but this post is for those who do. You need to be aware of the following safety measures that are being put into place to help keep kids and women safe from sex offenders while trick or treating.

Here is a link to an article that is informative on the subject and list at least three states (Chicago, Georgia, and Missouri) that have put these safety measures in place for kids trick or treating on - Halloween.

It is wise to know which homes to not let your children go up to - especially alone. You can locate the sex offenders in your area online via several websites.

The main website would be the FBI's sex offender registry page. Another good website would be the Family Watch Dog - you can enter your address and it will pull up any registered sex offender living in the area.

And lastly, you can always take a look at your local police department and sheriff's office website for registered sex offenders.

Please be safe and don't let your children go alone - or with just a group of kids - be proactive by going with your children.

If you are unable to click on a link they are listed in full below:
1.) FBI Sex Offender Registry -http://www.nsopw.gov/Core/OffenderSearchCriteria.aspx

2.) Family Watch Dog -http://www.familywatchdog.us/

Heartaches...Tragedies...

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I recently heard an encouraging song on "20 the Countdown Magazine" aired via J103 radio (102.7 FM) that reminded me of the book of Job in the Bible. The song is by Kerrie Roberts and is called "No Matter What."

All the heartaches Job went through (all his children died, all his animals (his farming business), most of his servants, and then his health failed him, wife failed him, and friends failed him) and how he remained faithful to God in the midst of it all. Due to his faithfulness to God and not turning away from Him when everything seemed to be going wrong in his life - God blessed him with not only children, servants, health, and animals - but more than the number he had lost to begin with.

Kerrie does a wonderful job with the words in this song and she has a beautiful voice. Here is a link to the youtube video where you can hear it for yourself as well as see the lyrics - Kerrie Roberts

Or Just watch the youtube video below:

Words of Encouragement

Heart Balloons

True Love Really Waits

2nd Rate Sex

Are you a "Fruitcake or Flesh cake Christian?"

Feeling Weak?

Broken Heart

Love Letters!

Prayer Journal

Still Hope?

If Facebook Were Around When Jesus Was Born...

Can You Pray Without Words?

Sex Before Marriage?

This Grandma Rocks!

God's Many Names

Our Sins

Singleness - A Blessing or Curse?

You Reap What You Sow

Easter Is For You!

If the punishment for any crime your commit was to be as follows:

Third, though by now you would be so weak since you've just endured hours upon hours of this treatment and have lost a lot of blood - you would be made to carry the very device that would be used to kill you with, a roughly 300 pound (135+ kilograms) cross to the destination of your execution.

And as if that wasn't enough....you would be stabbed in the side as you were hanging making for a very slow and painful death.

Do you know of anyone...friend or family that would be willing to take this punishment and ultimate death for you? What about a total stranger?

So what are you waiting for...choose life everlasting....choose Christ!

"He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he did not open his mouth; he was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before its shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth." Isaiah 53:7 King James Version

What Fruit Are You?

Bind My Heart To Thee

Day 10

Day 9

Day 8

Day 7 of 30

30 Days

Welcome To The Family!

Conviction vs. Condemnation

He Takes Care of His Children!

Marriage Worth Fighting For

Happiness vs. Joy

Do You Need Peace Of Mind?

Tragedy - Grief - Mercy & Grace

He Holds My Heart

A Love Song For You

Fall In Love!

"You Are More" & "By Your Side"

For My Valentine

Watchfully Waiting

Submit?

Do you sit on the fence?

Example of True Love Waits (TLW)

Friendship + Marriage

No Strings Attached - Really?

Make A List

The Dating Question

Life of a Christian - Supernatural

"A Supernatural High"

Hanging On By A Thread?

No Words Only Silent Tears

Bite the dust!

My Day in Court

God In America?

I'm Addicted

The Armor of God

Forgive and Forget Friday!

Having A Bad Day?

Ephesians 5 kind of man, husband and father.

Are You Giving Yourself Away?

A Proverbs 31 woman, wife and mother

Mercy & Grace

Hopeless? Weary? Broken Hearted?

Are You A Little Man?

History of Christmas

How Do You Save A World?

Merry Christmas!

Christmas = Giving?

I Love You God - "No Matter What!"

If God Be For Us, Who Can Be Against Us?

He Is My Everything!

Are Your Prayers Being Answered?

My Plea To God

Sinless?

Encouraging Words For A Boss